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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Are Going To Need A Bigger Bus!

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Mouseface Tue 08-Jan-13 11:59:43

Hello, tis me, Mouse smile

Welcome to the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a place of solace, support and sanctuary, but also it's also a Bus full of chatterboxes, waffling on about all sorts!

Our aim this year is to kick the WineWitch or WW into touch and get sober!

Some of the Babes on board are doing Dry January, some drink in moderation, some just drink. Some of us are sober, some of us are trying so very, very hard to be.

Some of us have been dry for days, weeks, months and some of us years...... some of us are just starting out and are scared of what stopping drinking means. It's not forever, it's just for today if that's what you want.

We have a saying on the Bus One Day At A Time. Or ODAAT smile

Take each moment, each day and each blip as it comes.

Although some Babes have been here a while and kind of 'know' each other, we all have different lives, different roles to play, different places to sit on the Bus, but we ALL have or have had abusive relationships with alcohol and we're here because we want that to change; for the better.

EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE so don't be afraid to just jump right in and say hello. Post as much or as little as you like! It's all up to you.

For those who want to catch up - here is the PREVIOUS THREAD

And the first ever thread, with links to the others over the last almost 3 years! FIRST THREAD

PurpleWolfe Wed 23-Jan-13 20:24:18

Thanks Green and Ma, that's made me feel better. I've said goodnight - but not quite in the usual cheery way. Tomorrow I shall 'thaw'. I agree, Help sometimes she has wings and a halo and other times, horns and a forked tail!

The thing I'm pleased about is that, although I've questioned my handling of it all, at least I know I'm coming at it sober and my anger/hurt (and therefore my reactions) are untainted by alcohol. xxx

greeneyed Wed 23-Jan-13 20:28:40

I think you are completely to be applauded purple that scenario would have had me pressing the fuck it button, you thought about it and didn't xx

PurpleWolfe Wed 23-Jan-13 20:36:20

grin At Green xx

aliasjoey Wed 23-Jan-13 20:37:18

yeah, purple wins today's gold star for ignoring the wine witch!

PurpleWolfe Wed 23-Jan-13 20:48:48

Oooo, I don't think I ever got a gold star before Joey! <clears throat....> "Thank you sooo much for this amazing Gold Star!" <sniffs dramatically> "I really didn't expect this, I love you all!""I'd just like to thank.........." <breaks down in full flow, theatrical tears> Cheers Dears! grin xx

helpyourself Wed 23-Jan-13 21:01:28

The thing I'm pleased about is that, although I've questioned my handling of it all, at least I know I'm coming at it sober and my anger/hurt (and therefore my reactions) are untainted by alcohol.
^ this
It's amazing, isn't it, how much easier it is to cope with anything when we can have confidence in our own feelings; when we're not altering and suppressing them with alcohol, however shitty they are, at least we know they're real.

curryeater Wed 23-Jan-13 21:07:48

thanks for sharing the good stuff helpyourself, great to hear.

purple, I have two little girls... all this to come. well done on managing it booze-free.

In bed! Already! loving it.
Tomorrow is another day. thanks for all your support today.

Mouseface Wed 23-Jan-13 21:12:37

Help - your face is still giving you grief? shock big hugs to you. I'm glad you've got an understanding boss though and hope you're back to 100% soon. YAY for the new job too! thanks congratulations xx

Purple - DD is almost 14 (if she makes it) and boy do I know that attitude of which you speak. I swear to Jeff, I could easily launch her into next door's garden at points with the eye rolls, sighs, tuts etc........

BUT - she asked if she could go somewhere this wknd. I said well, let me know where/when/who with etc, I'll clear it with so and so's mum and come back to you to tell you who's driving you.

She back tracked so fast I thought she was going to leave scorch marks on the floor. In short, I'd seen right through her and called her bluff by involving the mother of another child. She then said that she was sorry. I asked why, and she said because she'd lied and knew I'd seen right through her.

Thing is, I get why she did it. She didn't want me to say NO. Which is cool, I get that but I explained that if she lies, and fucks me around, she will be on lock down for the foreseeable, and I WILL follow through with the threat! grin

What's more Purple, you coped without turning to the WW!!! Well the feck done! smile

It's not easy. And funnily enough, DD has my lovely cupcake canvass bag that she borrowed as her new PE kit bag. Come rain or shine, it's no longer mine. BUT, if it makes her not get picked on for having a Aldi food bag to put her kit in, then I'll let her use it. She does look after it. And that's the deal.

Anyway............. thanks <--------- flowers for you are indeed needed, you've been a busy lady with your course, your life, and not drinking to boot? Go YOU!

Nemo is in bed, he snuggled into me and sang 'twinkle twinkle little star' to me and signed it too smile it made my heart go all goey smile

Time for bed soon. My pain levels are so high and no luck at the docs as they are on emergency appts only. Snowtastic.

Curry - {{{{{hugs}}}}} xx

Clutter - {{{{{hugs}}}}} xx for you too!

Actually, {{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} for all of you!

Night Brave Babes xx

Mouseface Wed 23-Jan-13 21:19:50

Great last post Help - about confidence. I'm really going now xx

And as this is the last page HERE'S THE NEW THREAD which I'd like you ALL ( Joey that means you! wink) to not post on just for now please until this one is full otherwise we might miss a cry for help if it gets busy and ends up in active convos!

I've put it up because I'm not here in the morning and don't want to have no thread for those in need......

<hugs Joey for making her (me) smile>

eminemmerdale Wed 23-Jan-13 21:38:48

Evening all. Another day over. I have nothing to add except my awe and admiration for everyone. You're all so inspiring, I'm just kind of taggin along, hoping I can also listen and maybe offer advice and support. I hope that's ok. Going through some stuff at the moment, but don't want to talk about it yet. I hope everyone is having a great and peaceful evening. DAY 23 shock

Mouseface Wed 23-Jan-13 21:43:40

Hmmm, Em - 'nothing to add'? How about 23 days? FFS woman?!!! Brilliant. Say it out loud. Twenty. Three. Days. Wow!

You are doing great x

Oops sorry Mouse I marked place on new thread when I read your first posted link. I won't go again until this is full. [chastened] Sorry to hear you're in so much pain. sad

Purple I would have been fucking apoplectic with rage if my DD (or anyone) had done that with a treasured present. I think you were incredibly restrained! Are you going to give her a consequence for what she did? Well done on not drinking and I agree about being more able to know that your feelings are valid and genuine when you aren't drinking.

Curry I know what you mean about being drinking buddies with your DP and that leaving a gap. A love of wine (and food) has been a huge thing in common ever since we got together, and I have doubts that our relationship would survive complete abstinence. Hopefully once you're feeling better, you can find different ways of bonding? My DP is a very quiet, self contained person too, and often only opens up a bit when he's had a drink. I know and accept that about him though, as I'm sure your DP does or can about you. Have you told him how awful you're feeling at the moment?

Please go and see your GP and tell them how you're feeling x

Well done em on 23 days!! smile

Green that video is beautiful and inspiring.

Morning Babes.
Just jumping on the bus and marking my space
xx

Morning all brave babes finally starting to feel a bit better since huge binge on wine on Saturday. I think it's shocking that it's took 4 full days to recover, just makes you think of how damaging all the toxins are that it takes your body days to recover. I work 3 days a week & have phoned in sick for all 3 days this week sad feel bad but have been here to settle my little boy into nursery so going to try & not feel too guilty (& hope I do t get sacked!)
purple hugs (( )) chocolates, flowers & all round brilliant well done. Sounds like yesterday was so hard but you managed & didn't resort to the cow that is the ww. It's such a hard addiction to beat, she can be so alluring. I have an almost 14 year old dd and can so emphasise with the attitude. Sometimes in my mind I actually think I hate her, then just as quick I am overcome with protectiveness and love for her, it's not easy bringing these girls up!
mouse so sorry you are in so much pain, you have so much to give others & wish there was a pain relief you could find that worked & gave you some let up, hopefully once this cold snap thaws things will improve (((( )))))
curry babyj alais emin ma mia green & all other brave babes hugs ((( ))) love, peace & strength & thank you all for your support xx

helpyourself Thu 24-Jan-13 07:27:25

Morning all! Wishing you all strength and HALT. How are you purple?

helpyourself Thu 24-Jan-13 07:30:56

((clutter))
It's a new day. You've made it through the physical hangover. Stay on the bus and let us nurse you through the emotional one.

Aw thank you help I think the help & support on this bus is inspiring, definitely want to stay on & hope not to fall off again! The way I felt on Sunday was beyond awful, then Monday, Tuesday I felt in deep depression, my mood lifted slightly yesterday & what really scares me is by last night I was thinking a chilled, glass of white wine would be nice! sad

greeneyed Thu 24-Jan-13 08:18:33

ohclutter I am the same memory fade happens so quickly and thus the cycle repeats itself. Is said white wine in the house, can you remove it so you are not tempted tonight? Can you read back your posts to the weekend and renind yourself why you do not want it

No white wine in the house, but was thinking I could go buy red & have a couple of glasses and maybe I'll be ok on red? I know this is wrong sad I wrote down all the negative effects (white) wine has on me so think I need to read over & watch YouTube video again x

Mouseface Thu 24-Jan-13 09:32:05

I'm going to fill this up now so that we can all get over HERE FROM NOW ON

Mouseface Thu 24-Jan-13 09:32:29

See you HERE SOON

Mouseface Thu 24-Jan-13 09:33:41

Come on, there's fresh coffee, hot chocolate, tea and toasted teacakes with butter for those not in boot camp.

Lettuce and cucumber smoothies for those who are grin

Right over HERE

Mouseface Thu 24-Jan-13 09:36:18

Help, Clutter, and IsinDe, I need a hand over HERE PLEASE getting the Bus clean now that the snow seems to be easing in most places.

Plus, we need to give it an A-Team van style make over to help keep the WW out!

Mouseface Thu 24-Jan-13 09:37:24

Bye for now, we're over HERE - Kooweeeeee!

<waves like a mad old aunt who you've not seen in years and always try to avoid> grin

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