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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Are Going To Need A Bigger Bus!

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Mouseface Tue 08-Jan-13 11:59:43

Hello, tis me, Mouse smile

Welcome to the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a place of solace, support and sanctuary, but also it's also a Bus full of chatterboxes, waffling on about all sorts!

Our aim this year is to kick the WineWitch or WW into touch and get sober!

Some of the Babes on board are doing Dry January, some drink in moderation, some just drink. Some of us are sober, some of us are trying so very, very hard to be.

Some of us have been dry for days, weeks, months and some of us years...... some of us are just starting out and are scared of what stopping drinking means. It's not forever, it's just for today if that's what you want.

We have a saying on the Bus One Day At A Time. Or ODAAT smile

Take each moment, each day and each blip as it comes.

Although some Babes have been here a while and kind of 'know' each other, we all have different lives, different roles to play, different places to sit on the Bus, but we ALL have or have had abusive relationships with alcohol and we're here because we want that to change; for the better.

EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE so don't be afraid to just jump right in and say hello. Post as much or as little as you like! It's all up to you.

For those who want to catch up - here is the PREVIOUS THREAD

And the first ever thread, with links to the others over the last almost 3 years! FIRST THREAD

Morning brave babes, just wanting to jump on before bus fills up! May jump between bus & side car but for now and January going to stay in bus & have dry January! No weight loss for me yet but early days & just going to try harder. Glad you had a nice birthday purple & sorry that your Birthdays are difficult for you (( ))

silverangel Wed 09-Jan-13 07:44:55

Morning all,

Marking my place! I'm still reading all the post but back at work and DTs (twins not tremors!) Don't much appreciate me being on the phone when they're about!

You're all inspiring and I wish you luck with your own particular battles.

I'm doing well, two glasses of wine on Sunday and won't drink now until Saturday when I plan on having a couple of glasses with DH. I have a friends 30th coming up, huge night out, have decided not to go as I'm not capable of abstaining at something like that yet and its too dangerous for me to 'have a couple' in that sort of situation, it turns into a couple or more bottles before I realise it. Going to take her out for dinner instead. This is the new 'sensible' me.

Mouse - hope the hospital goes well.

Forgive me I can't remember names but I hope the bugs are sorted for whoever had them!

X

greeneyed Wed 09-Jan-13 08:37:28

<Hauling purple back up on to the bus this morning and supplying with water and paracetomol> We have a celebrity in our midst! Hello JWN look forward to reading more of your posts.

Mouse really hope it goes well for Nemo this morning - thinking of you all.

Ma what day we on now? Can you see boingyland yet?

Well done brave babes for kicking the WW in the backside - have a good day all xxx

greeneyed Wed 09-Jan-13 08:40:54

Angel good plan re your friends party - I have two big nights coming up which I can't get out of - I think my only option is to drive though DH will try to persuade me otherwise. I'm sick of making a tit of myself and losing a whole day to a hangover.

determinedma Wed 09-Jan-13 09:14:49

Day 9 green a fecking unbelievable day 9 here! Can't quite see boingland yet but think I can hear faint voices carrying on the wind so it can't be far away. The mist is certainly clearing and can see the road.

SobaSoma Wed 09-Jan-13 09:22:32

Day 13. Head in a good place and feeling physically in good shape after eating and drinking too much over Christmas. DD is 13 today, already taller than me (I'm not short) and wise beyond her years. Mia I look at exH sometimes and want to give him a big hug because he's going through such a crap time (his relationship is over and they've just bought a house together and all is shite) but I can't in a million years imagine being back with him.

Green I'm sick of losing whole days to hangovers too. That's one of the main things that's keeping me from drinking at the moment. Angel that's a really good plan about the big night out, I'm doing the same at the moment and turned down a party on Saturday because I don't trust myself. And happy birthday for yesterday lovely Purple.

babyjane1 Wed 09-Jan-13 09:57:46

Hey purple happy belated birthday, I've kept you a seat!! Well babes another day without wine, I'm feeling so so tired but relieved not to worry about wine morning, noon and night. I still look horrendous but I guess it will take a while to flush a whole load of fermented grapes out of my bloated body. I am taking a vitamin b100 complex, is this the right one? My body feels as though it needs a tonic if you know what I mean, any advice welcome??? Also love love love the book club idea,
I need a new obsession, any other recommendations for a really great book?? I love reading but I'm always to pissed at bedtime so mows my chance... Anyway happy days my lovely babes x x x

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mrdarceych Wed 09-Jan-13 10:26:32

Good morning! And hi Jesus!! Am reading all the earlier threads and you are AWESOME!!
Kotinka- im fine... Kept the witch away last night... White chocolate Galaxy did the trick! Day 8 of 9 for me... Feeling good about myself, but it aint easy! Am home alone today and very little to do... Would normaly have the mateus going by now... But its feeling great not to! And im definetly losing my booze belly which is incentive in itself... Almost got my waist back... Havnt seen that for a few years thats for sure!! Am doing a bit of low carbing too.. No bread, pasta ect... But although i was not a sweetie person.. I seem to be wanting a bit of it now!! Yes, i hear you... Sugar intake was in the biatch of booze!!
I really am amazed i have got this far... I was a 3bottles a dayer!! So glad i found this thread... Wouldnt of stopped if i hadnt... Thanks all!! ( oh, and the money i was wasting!! Gah)

babyjane1 Wed 09-Jan-13 10:38:25

kotinka thanks for that recommendation, I don't really have a type of book, just wanted something all encompassing to fill the hour from hell, you know the one!!! mrd so so pleased your doing so well, you inspire us as much as we inspire you, we're a team and we will get through whatever lies ahead together xxxxx

babyjane1 Wed 09-Jan-13 10:39:35

kotinka I would say on this occasion that g&t was purely medicinal and let this one go x x

babyjane1 Wed 09-Jan-13 10:44:25

mrd keep the money you have saved in a jar and buy yourself something nice at the weekend, it' gives you a sense of real achievement and pride so spoil yourself, a book. A cd, a massage x x x

babyjane1 Wed 09-Jan-13 10:46:49

soba and ma You guys are doing amazing, keep up the good work, you are feeding us all with your success, you guys rock!!' Xxxxx

mrdarceych Wed 09-Jan-13 10:56:21

Baby... Yes, am going to have a posh Wash and Blowdry! My hair is pretty long so that will be a big treat!

babyjane1 Wed 09-Jan-13 11:00:36

mrd I like your style, life always looks better with swishy hair x x

Hello there. DAY 9 - blimey!! Woke up feeling really groggy this morning which was annoying - still struggling a bit with the 'normal' sleeping patterns. Also have a large blob at the end of our bed who likes to check we're still there at 4 am by having a sniff and a little 'miaw' grin Having to leave him alone all day for the first time today sad but I'm sure he'll be fine. At work right now, writing up a funding bid - hoping I still have a job after April !! Having those sweetie cravings too..it's the sugar from the alcohol wanting to be replaced isn't it - I had three marathons yesterday (I refuse to call them Snickers - stuff n nonsense) Hope everyone has a good day x

babyjane1 Wed 09-Jan-13 12:37:12

holly that's amazing, your way ahead of me I'm only on day
4 but you guys help me keep the faith... By the way to all the babes out there, I complemented my 13 yr last night on her good behaviour this week and her helping with her little sis and she said "mum when you are nice to me it makes me want to be nice to you" hardly profound but makes you think eh!!! That comment gave me a nice little buzz without touching a drop x x x x

greeneyed Wed 09-Jan-13 12:55:00

Ma a few hours and you'll be past your personal best - I'm feeling mildly boingy today for the first time - principally because I've been Ill since new year and now getting better so hopefully will start to feel some benefits. No weightloss as I am stuffing my face!

First proper challenge will be Saturday when I have some boozy friends (actually all my friends are boozy) coming to stop over. DH already encouraging me to drink for the evening but I don't plan to. Stay brave babes! xx

Ma !!!! Feck me! 9 Days! Well done US!!! ME TOO!!! WHo woulda believed it eh?
Still not quite hit the full boing yet but I love love love waking up and not have a wave of guilt and self loathing wash over me as I emerge through layers of hangover to wake full of remorse and "not again"s and stinky breath and fuzzy head...
So if the absence of all of that is a boing then I am definately getting there!

Have lovey days all xxx

Just read up the screen! Holly Go Girl! Well done on the 9 days and baby well done on 4. Personally I find getting past day one a mighty achievement and know that has always been a real hurdle for me. So if anyone manages to ignore the WW for even one night then they get a place in my hall of fame. grin

baby I get little comments like that from my 12 year old - he said on sunday i think 'mum have you stopped drinking or something?' I said yes and he replied, 'I thought so, you're so much calmer - you get so moody when you drink and sort of stupid' sad He and my eldest have been through v bad times with me. I must crack this time, i really must.

*crack IT, not crack grin

guggenheim Wed 09-Jan-13 13:42:58

Hi Babes

hope mouse is getting on ok.

I have ds in my lap and am typing one handed so hope this makes sense. I had some work I was counting on cancelled and I'm feeling down about it. I won't be drinking but my normal reaction is to get angry and then get drunk.
so what do sober people do they they feel crap? I'm not angry (for once) which is a direct result of staying sober. Do you have a cry? forget all about it? what?
idiot.

go for a long angry walk ?? Exercise is fab - but I am guilty of procrastinating when I know I should be doing it. If I make myself go out wlaking or go to the gym swimming, I know I'll feel better though! Is that possbible for you with ds?? It's really horrible when things go wrong and drink is so easy to access then sad DON'T DO IT!!! grin

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