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Twat. Well rid. Do you feel strong enough to go? Will your mates be cool and help you out?

What. A. Twat.

He called tonight because we have a mutual party tomorrow, he does not to upset me but he is bringing someone else. Fucker

Kate and tzella

Me too - another one who's been dumped by a man who needed to be alone for days; spent my money; always talked about himself and had little interest in me, even when I was going through crap and thought I really needed him. WTF was I thinking of?

But I'm surviving very well -I'm going to reestablish my social life, join things, do things, stop being held back by a tosser.

We're all going to be fine

Oh Kate and tzella - you are both well rid! New York - wow! He didn't text or call for 6 months!!! He spent your money. He didn't ask how you were...ever. He went AWOL??? Well rid.

Now go and see the world and leave him wallowing! Go girls!

And you. I have stopped looking at my phone as for the last 6 months he did not text or call, it was always me. What a chump. Well, not anymore!

I think my change of scene will be visiting friends in the coast by £1 megabus

I'm not checking my phone because I know he's so stubborn he won't contact me, and this time I will not be contacting him. After a few break ups over the last year it was always me asking for him back but this time I feel nothing.

Best wishes for a wonderful 2013

Tzella, that is what we did, spent my cash. I am looking forward to the change of scenery and it feels like a huge relief not to check my phone to see if he has called.

Oh Kate! NYC! I've always wanted to go. I dumped a terrible bloke two days ago & have deleted his number and am ready to go onwards and upwards but unfortunately can't afford to This is due to the nature of his terribleness; how WE spent MY money I'm an idiot but hey, life goes on

Actually, weirdly, one thing of his I forgot to pack and give back was a dollar bill he got from somewhere which is wedged into the sitting room mirror Must be a sign.

Kate you are well rid!

New York sounds fantastic and just the thing to blow the old cobwebs away! I'm jealous, I've never been!
You never know, you might meet a gorgeous New Yorker on your trip, and end up moving there! The worlds your oyster now!

Exciting times!!

I am off to New York in March for a few days, never been before as he was not working so could not afford it.

Cogit, I am beginning to see that. There is withdrawn and ill with depression and then there is selfishness. He was the latter. Especially disappearing for days because he needed to be on his own.

"I never got a 'how was your day', when I was stressed, I just got an update on how he was feeling "

I hear ya sister!!! See..... not so much 'depression' there, more 'selfish introspection and utter lack of empathy'.

So where you off to for your hols, kate? Somewhere hot and steamy warm and sunny? And when do you depart?

Aaw OP! Best wishes, x

You've convinced me, tonne. Eurotunnel here I come

<or would if I wasn't on crutches... sob>

well done OP, change of scenery and new faces is what you need.

izzy, you are positive;y on top form this eve

It's an opportunity to revel in the poignancy of shattered dreams and marvel at the bittersweet taste of unreciprocated love. What would poets and dramatists and novelists do without it?
marvellous!

Ooh Gallic charm is so much It than Scandi sportyness , and hte accent - no comparison imo , I mean, appreciate what you have!

I have just booked a holiday and deleted his number. Onwards

In the grand scheme of things, you win some and you lose some, honey.

What you had was man who wasn't worth winning and losing him can only be a bonus blessing in disguise.

See it for what it is which is valuable lesson in not compromising your personality or your integrity to keep suit a man.

You know the saying you have to kiss a few frogs before you find a prince? Much as I'm fond of the little creatures in rl, in storybook terms he was a warty old frog who's best not touched with a bargepole left alone on his lilypad.

There's no guarantee that the next one, or the one after that, won't be horny toads frogs too but if they reject you, heave a sigh of relief because it means you're that much nearer to finding a prince among frogs men.

Or a froggy princeling as the case may be. Which reminds me I've been looking to fill a vacancy for a Scandinavian fwb. Maybe I should hop across the channel for a dalliance with a Gallic charmer while I'm waiting for a suitable Viking to put in an appearance?

True, I am winning already really I suppose. I need to get my plans in place so I do not sit and panic about being rejected. Thank you for your advice, you are spot on

True, I am winning already really I suppose. I need to get my plans in place so I do not sit and panic about being rejected. Thank you for your advice, you are spot on

Jeez, no knob dictating terms and you get to spend your money on yourself? What a result! Shame you didn't dump him a couple of years ago.

I am certainly better than I was, writing it down has helped. And I get to spend my money on me

You fraud, you! You're all but over him aleady You go, gal - karma'll sort him and you can save your pity for the next poor cah who gets your cast offs