I am a good person, kind to others, do my best in life. Came out of a v abusive marriage 4yrs ago. Have had yrs & yrs of counselling & put my life back together. Nearly two yrs ago I met a man online.
We clicked, he was lovely. Time moved on, he was great with my dc's, my family loved him & his family loved me. We moved in together & he was committed to getting married etc. He didn't have dc's so we spoke about having a dc together.
I became pg three mts ago. He was thrilled, excited etc until two days later he threw a strop over nothing really & left. He moved back into his own house which was still empty as it was just sold. I did everything to put things right but I couldn't reach him & he seemed entrenched in destroying everything. His family couldn't get him to talk either. I thought maybe it was a wobble to do with his house being sold & him losing a considerable amount of money in the process.
I tried to contacted him several times the night before xmas eve to tell him I had just started to bleed & was afraid I was going to lose the baby. He never replied. It was touch & go for awhile but eventually it was confirmed baby had died three days ago. Had sent more messages in between but again no response.
Discovered last night that in the days I was bleeding & trying to contact him he had gone back on line & was messaging loads of women.
How does someone do this to another human being? How can someone shut down like this overnight? Our lives were completely entertwined. How does someone lay next to you everynight & tell you how much they love you etc & then do this? How when he had no children of his own & apparantly really wanted one could he do this when I was pg? Most importantly how do I ever learn to trust my own judgement again, remember I've already done the counselling to death & this one looked like the real deal?
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overcomingevil · 01/01/2013 01:50
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