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14yearold girl slept with 23yearild man

(166 Posts)
RileyTheLittleMonster Sun 30-Dec-12 21:21:29

This is not me!
I'm using different name, 14 year old girl-Jill
Man, jack

End if January I walked in and found jack ontop if Jill having sex, very disturbing.. these two people are well was really close to me. It's jills second time she lost her virginity at 13 but we found out a ciuple weeks after this happened.

Jills mum decided to ground her for two months and band her from seeing him for a couple if weeks until her 15th birthday.

Jill is my sister, my mum hasnt stopped her from seeing him he is around EVERY WEEKEND.

They lie on the sofa giving each other love bites, he sneakers upstairs at night until past 3am and he sets his alarm every morning at 6-7am to go upstairs .

I find it very weird but my mum is soft!! What shalld i di?

TheSecondComing Sun 30-Dec-12 21:23:52

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Report to SS. Your parent is complicit in the sexual molestation of a child.

She is not 'having sex', under the law she is being raped.

How old are you? Do you need some help? Think about calling childline or the nspcc - the nspcc will report it for you.

Booyhoo Sun 30-Dec-12 21:28:11

this is rape. you need to report it.

izzyizin Sun 30-Dec-12 21:29:05

What would you hope will happen if you report the fact that 'your 14yo dsis is having sex with a 23yo?

When will she become 15 and is she on the pill?

Booyhoo Sun 30-Dec-12 21:29:16

i actually cant believe that your mum's response was to ground your sister! fucking hell!

LaCiccolina Sun 30-Dec-12 21:33:46

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ihearsounds Sun 30-Dec-12 21:36:06

SS and police.
If your mum doesn't like it tough. Someone has to act like an adult and protect a child.

Fairylea Sun 30-Dec-12 21:36:37

Call nspcc and police. It's rape and child abuse for your mum to continue to allow it.

I hope for everyone's sakes this isn't real.

RileyTheLittleMonster Sun 30-Dec-12 21:37:08

They had sex without using a condom and she isnt on the pill or any other conception.

I'm 18, suffered 3 miscarriages since April, 1 which was happening when I caught them. And I'm currently quite ill and only just able to leave bed without my partners help.

I don't know why my mum is doing this, she has always been so amazing but strict. But with Jill she doesn't do anything, my sister is a really horrible person.

Sadly, this is common - I work in a school and have had 3 of these in one term - some parents are just awful.

Poor you - why have you had 3 miscarriages ? It sounds like you need help too.

RileyTheLittleMonster Sun 30-Dec-12 21:39:42

This is a true post, i wouldnt waste your time. My mum said i can ring the police if i want.

My mum hasnt because she has twins aged 5, disabled son 8 and another son 13. So doesnt want them taken away, neither do i..

HestonsFatCock Sun 30-Dec-12 21:40:00

This is a crime and the laws of confidentiality don't have to cover a chat board if a child is being raped by an adult male with another adult female's compliance. Could MN get the details and hand over to the police? I think by law, they must report a crime such as this.

HestonsFatCock Sun 30-Dec-12 21:42:00

I hope your Mother is looking after you and your other siblings better than she is looking after her 14 year old daughter. I doesn't sound like it if she is saying you can "ring the police if you want". Fucking hell, I'm glad I don't have a mother like that.

RileyTheLittleMonster Sun 30-Dec-12 21:42:28

Lauries- I havent had tests yet, I lost my baby boy riley at 23weeks April(infection and weak cervix). Two at 7 weeks august 16th and 18th december. Need to wait 3 months for tests

cafebistro Sun 30-Dec-12 21:44:57

1. Report 'Jack'. He is abusing 'Jill' as she is a minor and cannot in the eyes of the law consent to sex.
2. Get some help for yourself. 3 miscarriages in the last 8 months is awful. You're only 18, what are you doing???

RileyTheLittleMonster Sun 30-Dec-12 21:46:18

I can promise you all she is a fantastic mum. To me and all her other kidsif we need her she is there every step of the way. It's just Jill always has to do something stupid, mum was going ti report it that night but I told her not to because i was miscarrying and the kids might get taken away. She listened and now she might get done because I didn't qant nore trouble sad.

izzyizin Sun 30-Dec-12 21:46:23

You are only 18 and have had 3 miscarriages since April shock Why do want to have a baby at such a young age?

I'm sorry to say it sounds as if your dsis is following in your footsteps.

If you report your dm/dsis/her bf, it's unlikely that anything very much will happen unless your dsis admits to having underage sex with this man - and I somehow think that's unlikely.

Nevertheless, you can but try. And I sincerely hope you'll set an example to your dsis by using contraception and avoid becoming pregnant again until you're a few years older.

Booyhoo Sun 30-Dec-12 21:48:49

if your mum is allowing her daughter to be raped in her house then i think SS need to be speaking to her and making sure she has the wit to raise 4 other children including one with additional needs! ring the police.

so sorry about your losses OP. can i ask why you are trying for a baby at 18? it's very young.

izzyizin Sun 30-Dec-12 21:50:00

Your dm is NOT going to lose her dc because one of them is having underage sex.

It seems to me that if anyone's going to report this matter it should be your dm. Talk to her and reassure her that she won't be risking any of her dc being taken into care if she makes contact with SS or your dsis's school to get her the help and advice she needs to stop her emulating you.

Maryz Sun 30-Dec-12 21:51:04

She is not a fantastic mum.

How come this mysterious man is sleeping downstairs in your house and sneaking around at night? Who is he? And does he know he will end up in jail?

Booyhoo Sun 30-Dec-12 21:51:10

no. sorry. a fantastic mother does not allow a 23 year old man to have sex with her 14 year old daughter. a fantastic mother would have called the police and would not be letting him in her house. she is not a fantastic mother. at best she is neglectful of your sister's wellbeing.

RileyTheLittleMonster Sun 30-Dec-12 21:51:14

Cafe- I was using protection will my first but didnt once and I fell pregnant. I dropped out of college at 16weeks and he died in April. As I wasnt in college u wanted ti get better and tryed again.. fell pregnant and miscarried again August. So i started college in september was using comdoms and went to doctoes for the pill but they was to busy talking about my thyroid to gove it me. Condom split fell pregnant miscarried couple if weeks ago.

Not planning on having kids now not well wnough concentrating on getting well and distinctions!

LynetteScavo Sun 30-Dec-12 21:51:19

So your mum has 6 DC, one of whom is disabled.....is she single? I would imagine she's exhausted, and feels she's lost control of your sister.

Do you live with them?

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