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How did it go? <nosy>

Problem resolved, oopsie?

Sorry but you sonubd very shallow and nasty OP.

Its been a week and you are gagging for sex and judging him on his nerves.
The double standard is ridiculous.

Let him go. There is a lovely girl out there somewhere who wants a nice man for more than his penis.

He does sound really nice and I would perhaps give it a bit longer than tomorrow before you jack him in.

I would at least talk to him about it! But yes, a fit healthy man (in mind and body) should be all over you at this stage so it would set alarm bells off for me as well.

But you do owe him a chat before dumping him.

Coming from another angle, maybe he doesnt find you all that attractive? Forgive me if that sounds nasty, but attractiveness is different for everyone, and you might not be his cup of tea. Maybe he was drawn to your personality?

Thats one of many angles - he could be nervous etc to perform. Your continuation of this relationship depends on how much you like other sides of his self.

TheDoctrine the OP has probably name changed. Not many MNers would provide these sorts of details without a NC!

I hope its like a broom handle for you!

Happy new year all!! Here's hoping for some action tonight lol xx

Fingers crossed you see the New Year in with a bang, oopsie. but however it goes, have a happy one

Hope you've found your first MN thread helpful with your problem, OP. Good luck.

We're going out tonight to a function where I'll meet his friends. Will see if there's any action in the bedroom tonight or wether its straight to sleep like last night!
Going to meet his folks (at his suggestion) tomorrow, but if there's no physical contact tonight I'll be making an excuse to go home tomorrow & don't think I'll be back in touch :/ x

Poodle, I'm pretty sure a woman suggesting introducing a person she'd been dating for a week to her parents would get quite a lot of "wow, that's a bit soon" comments.

O dear, fuckapoodledoodoo, you are on one today. How about a glass of and a nice lie down before this evening's festivites kick off?

Solid Also, the introducing-you-to-everyone plus wilting willy could suggest a man who's absolutely desperate not to be single and who may turn into a dreadful whining Klingon...

Wow what a nasty conclusion based on er not much at all. Those sort of statements say more about you than any man.

If it were a woman say, who had started seeing someone new that they really liked and perhaps wanted to introduce them to their friends and close family, i don't know, perhaps because she respected their opinions? Said woman was tense about having sex with new partners and the sex life wasn't progressing much . . . after a week . . .

I predict responses such as Well of course its fine to introduce to friends, its important they like him, if he's any sort of man he won't rush you into sex and will be patient.

Double standards, double standards, double standards. MN doesn't change and the type of people who post on it with your sort of opinions don't change.

Feck knows why i came back!

TBH I've never progressed a relationship very far (although perhaps sometimes too far?) that didn't start well physically. It depends on priorities, for me (and sounds like OP) this is important.

Try to relax and enjoy your time together. If you don't, you don't.

And you don't have to tell him why you're ending something after such a short time. I probably would, and it would probably be the wrong thing to do.

Good luck!

Just another thought, perhaps he needs you to take the lead and be sexually dominant? He may be naturally submissive and need you to be a bit stern with him?

Sorry, nervous he may be but if the combination of waking up to your warm naked body and "morning horn" haven't resulted in sex, there's not much hope. He should have been all over you like a rash.
That's not disregarding mens' feelings, it's stating the bleedin obvious .

If you think he's nice, give him another chance. If you decide he's not for you, bin him politely and move on. This early on, it's really no big deal to dump a man if you're not having much fun with him: you don't owe him a relationship.

Also, the introducing-you-to-everyone plus wilting willy could suggest a man who's absolutely desperate not to be single and who may turn into a dreadful whining Klingon...

Lubey. Its not exactly endless sacrificing is it! Its been what, a week? Two attempts?

The sexism and casual disregard of mens feelings on mn is a fecking disgrace.

Op. at your meat joke. I hope it works out for you both. I don't think that early days sex is entirely indicative of how the whole sex life is going to be, hasn't been for me anyway, its just got better and better in my current relationship. I hope that yours is the same!

Hi, he came back down & asked me nicely to come back to bed, was very apologetic about keeping me awake and he even lay awake so I could get a few hours kip!

He is kind & even my dogs love him which is great because they were never keen on my ex!

I'll see how tonight goes as staying here again tonight as we're going out together, but I've still not had any physical action by the time I go home on the 1st or 2nd I'll have to talk to him about it.

I am understanding & haven't made any passes on him as want to make sure he does it in his own time if its nerves. I have quite a high sex drive though so it does need to be discussed if we're to go any further.

He's currently making me a bacon roll shame that's the only meat I've seen all week ;)

OP I've experienced this a few times. It's such an awful disappointment when everything else is good, and it's a dealbreaker for me.

I'm always patient for say up to three or four occasions to give them a chance to feel more comfortable with me, and I'd never let on that I feel what I just said above this paragraph, but if it isn't happening after several times then I'm off.

fuckadoodlepoo yes and if said man attached to it has issues that bad then he ought to get some therapy. It's not OP's job to be his sex therapist and endlessly understanding, sacrificing her needs just so poor widdle soldier doesn't get his feelings bruised.

Things to consider to the op and some of the rest of you . . . patience, compassion, sensitivity, equality (since when is it ok to treat a man like a sex object) . . . just a few to get you going.

There is actually a man attached to that cock in which you are so disappointed.

Wow. People are so harsh!

Imagine if it were a woman who was too tense to have sex and posters on here were suggesting that the bloke dump her because of it! It would never happen!

I had a break from mn because of shit just like this and I've come back and found it just the same

So you've tried a couple of times and the blokes a bit too anxious to perform, big deal!

Not sure why you are meeting everyone so soon. What is the point in that? Add to that the staying over problems, I would be running a mile. I agree that this can be a problem for some men with a new partner. It happened with an ex of mine. Things improved but he always had a sensitive ego where sex was concerned and I could never be myself in the bedroom. I wouldn't be with a man with such issues again sorry.

Talk to him. Say it's important you get it cracked before things proceed?

What about viagra til he overcomes his nerves?!