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What would you say is essential in a good relationship?

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pleasestopcarolling · 27/12/2012 16:19

I' m not looking for perfect just basic essentiais without which you think a relationship wouldn't work.

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SirSugar · 27/12/2012 16:21

respect

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insancerre · 27/12/2012 16:22

Sense of humour
art of compromise
being able to talk and listen
honesty
things in common

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pleasestopcarolling · 27/12/2012 16:22

I agree , anything else?

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CrispyHedgeHogmanay · 27/12/2012 16:23

open honest communication with no bullshitting or passive aggressive crap

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mckenzie · 27/12/2012 16:24

communication, communication, communication

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insancerre · 27/12/2012 16:24

and physical attraction Grin

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GinandChocolate · 27/12/2012 16:27

Trust
Love
Tolerance

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Asinine · 27/12/2012 16:28

Sleep
Trust
Basic hygiene
Love

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pleasestopcarolling · 27/12/2012 16:29

Would you include a reasonably regular sex life?

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BlameItOnTheBogey · 27/12/2012 16:29

Respect, kindness and communication.

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Thisisaeuphemism · 27/12/2012 16:30

Compatability - so yes, sex comes under that.

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strumpetpumpkin · 27/12/2012 16:30

communication, realism, respect, love, connection and feeling sexually satisfied.

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SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 27/12/2012 16:31

yes a reasonably regular sex life that both parties are happy with (the regularity) is important for me.

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pleasestopcarolling · 27/12/2012 16:31

and selfishness? (not sure that' s a proper word)

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pleasestopcarolling · 27/12/2012 16:32

I me a by UN selfishness!

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pleasestopcarolling · 27/12/2012 16:33

sorry stupid spell correct

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 27/12/2012 16:33

The ability to admit you are wrong and apologise.

Sex is important yes. But similar sex drives is crucial. If neither want it or both love it then ok. If one does and the other doesnt then there could be problems.

Mutual respect.

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Lueji · 27/12/2012 16:35

I'd say

good communication
respect
honesty
similar values

physical attraction, of course

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SummerDad · 27/12/2012 16:36

Communication
Trust
Patience
Respect for the person and his/her needs
Intimacy (just not sex)
Common values
Faithfulness

Can go on further but I guess these are the most important ones for me

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SummerDad · 27/12/2012 16:39

Sex is important yes. But similar sex drives is crucial. If neither want it or both love it then ok. If one does and the other doesnt then there could be problems.

sex drive does change over the time but if there is an element of respect of the needs of each other, a difference in the sex drive can be overcome IMHO, I like to think so.

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SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 27/12/2012 16:43

i agree summerdad and that is where communication will come in aswell.

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SummerDad · 27/12/2012 16:48

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock sorry, I just meant to add to your comment and not to contradict it. Compatible sex drives with physical attraction is a fatal combination no doubt.

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SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 27/12/2012 16:56

oh i didn't even realise you were commenting in reference to my comment! Grin

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lemontruffles · 27/12/2012 16:57

mutual respect
openness
deep honesty and trust between you
humour
physical intimacy
time for each other
patience
wisdom to see beyond immediate problems
love and desire, good times and bad

I found these qualities in my second marriage; I speak from experience of both a very poor marriage, and now, a very happy marriage.

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dondon33 · 27/12/2012 17:26

In no particular order:

Attraction
Trust
Communication
Respect
Humour

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