I think the title says it all! I personally think he is a knob to an extreme degree. I have already written about his behaviours on the thread 'Devistated is an understatement' buthis latest set of behaviours has set an all time low!
On 4.11.2012 I explained that I didnt want him at the house on Christmas morning to spend time with our DC as I didnt think it was a good idea. I offered him the 24th to spend time with the DC which he agreed with, saying he understood how I felt. Which in all honestly was a first. Anyway fast forward to the beginning of December, he saw the children on the new arranged time on once a week as opposed to twice weekly because he was unable to keep to the timetable I set up for him. The following two Saturdays he failed to turn up because 1. he had a cold, 2. he was feeling sick. Both dates were cancelled at the last minute and came with the 'sick' voice. Obviously on both occasions I had to change my own plans and find something for the children to do on both occasions. I wasnt bothered as I enjoy spending time with my children but as I had just came out of hospital following surgery I didn find it difficult.
Call on Monday from him to Dc during which I offered tyhat he have the children on Saturday from 9 to 4pm. His response was he might be busy but would let me know. Tuesday I asked that he let me know asap. Wednesday I ask him what was happening. His repsonse was I want to see the children on Thursday/Friday bnight because I'm going on holiday for Christmas as I'm stressed! Stressed he doesnt understand the word - he doesnt pay then correct amount for his DC, what he does pay I have to ask him for each week, he calls when he feels like it, turns up occasionally etc.
Anyway last night I recieved a call when I returned from work saying 'I'm outside I either see the childfren now ort they dont get any Christmas present.' Being held to randsom I allowed him to see the DC only to be shouted at on the doorstep when I asked him if he was still seeing the children on Saturday. Apparently he says I'm changing my mind all the time, despite the fact he is supposed to see his DC on Saturday! so all in all he isnt seeing the children again until some time in January when he returns from holiday with OW and their dog.
In the meantime he has told our DC that he is about to lose his flat because OW has lost her job, the flat is covered in mould, when he returns from holiday he might have to rent a room in a shared house with OW and their dog...as if I'm really bothered by his woes!
He is Twonk isnt he?
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Is my STBH a complete knob?
redtulip68 · 21/12/2012 22:50
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