I have NCed as I don't want to make things any worse and am not sure if SIL uses this site.
DH and I have a good relationship, with all the up and downs but generally good, apart from the problems SIL and I have with each other. DH and SIL are reasonably close but unfortunately she and I do not get on and this is causing major friction between DH and I.
Basically, SIL and I just don't like each other and it shows. To be fair, usually we both just try to be civil and polite to each other but, every so often and usually with drinks involved, we have a blow up. We had another slanging match disagreement recently and DH told me this was the last straw and he has completely withdrawn from me. We have been together about 18 years so this is a long-standing problem.
Now, I know this is something SIL and I should try to sort out but I am at a complete loss at how to achieve this. Whenever there is a disagreement (such as the latest one) DH will never, even when it is plainly obvious that I (in this instance) was not being unreasonable, take my side. I know, I know, very childish . Once again, I have had to apologise and listen to a complete character assasination and just accept it for the sake of peace. This has happened many times and, this time, I am just so worn down and sad about it I feel like leaving. Over-reaction I know but I just know this will happen again and again.
I do know I am at fault too and am not just bashing SIL.
Does anyone have any ideas on how I can change/improve this relationship and/or my behaviour? Thank you.
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IamtheSILfromHell · 18/12/2012 13:17
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