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Men who don't watch porn

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FBworry Mon 10-Dec-12 19:40:59

I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

seeker Tue 11-Dec-12 12:20:29

grin at cross post.

PeppermintPasty Tue 11-Dec-12 12:20:55

I despair.

HullyEastergully Tue 11-Dec-12 12:23:19

My dh doesn't watch it, it's never occurred to me to ask him why not. Being with someone who watched porn is beyond my imagination. And they would also be a bit dead.

abitcoldupnorth Tue 11-Dec-12 12:25:23

Shoesme what do you think that might suggest about your circle of friends?

Do you always think that what you and your friends do is what the rest of the world does?

Shoesme Tue 11-Dec-12 12:34:03

My apologies as i don't know how to quote but in answer to abitcoldupnorth (it really is at the moment)

I do have a wide variety of male friends, different ages etc so I do not believe it's just the people or the circle of males I know.

I believe it's a wider issue with men and porn.

rubyrubyruby Tue 11-Dec-12 12:37:48

My DH isn't bothered either.

He prefers to watch repeated showings of the Sopranos whilst I massage his feet.

Shoesme Tue 11-Dec-12 12:39:32

Honestly, I'm giving away man secrets here, when you ladies with the men who don't watch porn, pop to the shops, he's having the biggest danger wank ever.

badinage Tue 11-Dec-12 12:40:39

As if women can't tell if a man watches porn....grin

Rather than talk to your friends, talk to their partners - and your own if you have one.

Women know the difference. If you talk to any of them who've had sex with a porn loser, they'll tell you that they are shit in bed, have no imagination and are strangely attached to a belief that women are propelled into ecstasy by a penis and its ejaculations.

If your own partner and your friends' partners tell you different, they are just telling you what you want to hear......wink

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Tue 11-Dec-12 12:41:08

"man secrets"

"you ladies"

do fuck off

HullyEastergully Tue 11-Dec-12 12:43:41

I want to share an "intelligent lady secret"

You've been fed a big fat lie to make you shut the fuck up and put up with a whole heap of shit.

Tis sad.

seeker Tue 11-Dec-12 12:43:42

"Add message | Report | Message poster Shoesme Tue 11-Dec-12 12:39:32
Honestly, I'm giving away man secrets here, when you ladies with the men who don't watch porn, pop to the shops, he's having the biggest danger wank ever."

How welly, welly icky.

Shoesme Tue 11-Dec-12 12:44:16

No need to be rude blush

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Tue 11-Dec-12 12:46:11

No need to be a patronising pillock, dude

Shoesme Tue 11-Dec-12 12:48:13

Well my apologies for coming across as patronising. I'm just trying to help x

Offred Tue 11-Dec-12 12:51:25

In what way are you "trying to help"?

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Tue 11-Dec-12 12:53:09

laughable

SonOfAradia Tue 11-Dec-12 12:53:25

As a man, I know quite a lot of other men who don't watch porn, for a variety of reasons, including the exploitation angle, not finding it a turn-on and the fact it can totally fuck up your own sexual response.

mouldyironingboard Tue 11-Dec-12 12:53:57

Years ago, my DH once dated a woman who thought there was something weird about him because he'd never watched porn or wanted to watch it.

He challenged the date to show him a film and couldn't stop laughing at how bad it was. After asking for the third time 'why is that sexy?' and commented 'that woman must have terrible piles after doing that! It's putting me off my popcorn' 'can't we watch a film with a real plot now? he was asked to leave and never go back.

Not all men like porn!

SonOfAradia Tue 11-Dec-12 12:54:22

"Honestly, I'm giving away man secrets here, when you ladies with the men who don't watch porn, pop to the shops, he's having the biggest danger wank ever."

No, that's just you.

Shoesme Tue 11-Dec-12 12:54:45

Just to offer my perspective as your everyday male in his late 20's. We men lie about things like porn, being at the pub etc.

I'm here to help by betraying my brethren.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Tue 11-Dec-12 12:54:58

Wanking as a danger sport. How juvenile.

BelaLugosisShed Tue 11-Dec-12 12:55:25

Well, if it isn't one of our little friends from arrse (or other similar website full of saddos)
"Danger wank" is such a mature term. hmm
Another man who can't differentiate between porn use and masturbation.

Shoesme Tue 11-Dec-12 12:55:43

SonOfAradia, I don't watch porn.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Tue 11-Dec-12 12:57:08

Nah, you're here on a windup. And now you've had your danger wank, you fancy stirring up the "ladies" on Mumsnet. Or perhaps, for a bit of novelty, you are combining the two. Congratulations on the multi-tasking, we'll make a lady of you yet.

MadameOvary Tue 11-Dec-12 12:57:14

"Danger wank"?
hmm

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