Note: Mumsnetters don't necessarily have the qualifications or experience to offer relationships counselling or to provide help in cases of domestic violence. Mumsnet can't be held responsible for any advice given on the site. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

If you are married

(113 Posts)
BertieBotts Mon 10-Dec-12 17:34:21

How old were you when you felt ready for marriage? And how long had you been with your partner?

Just curious grin

AmelieRose Sun 20-Jan-13 00:40:33

Met when I was 23, he was 33.
Engaged after 8 years
Married 9 months
Together 10 years at the end of this month!

Forgot to mention I'm 30 in August...,
And met at the age of 18...

Married for nine years in October, been together 11 years come July, got engaged after a week,,,
Got married a little over a year later,
Our children are nine and four.5

Lafaminute Sat 19-Jan-13 21:03:47

35 - but I'd been married 9 years at that stage. I knew he was a good man and that if I said NO I would be making a bad decision but I was not ready to get married. I spent my weeding day & honeymoon thinking WHAT HAVE I DONE?? but you know, 15 years on I believe I made the right decision and I have not got a reputation for doing that generally! We had been together 5 years before we got married. So 20 years this year. WOW! I don't feel old enough for that!!

Startail Sat 19-Jan-13 20:58:31

met when I was 20, engaged six weeks later and married at 22.

still happily together 25 years and 2DDs later.

Mrsaurtherpendragon Sat 19-Jan-13 20:55:54

Engaged at 25
Married at 27
Together now for 9 years! smile

Should say, that's six weeks from the first words we spoke to one another.

21. Six weeks. Still together ten years, two DCs and two mc later.

ArtemisatBrauron Sat 19-Jan-13 20:46:23

23, got married after 9 years together and now been married for 4.5 years and still very happy grin

3littlewomen Sat 19-Jan-13 15:59:34

married at 30 (10 years ago) together 17 years, engaged within 2 months of meeting (long engagement). He was THE one, still is 4 kids later (expecting #5 this year).

We are a great team, lots of mutal respect and we love each other (puke!)

Taffeta Sat 19-Jan-13 15:58:45

I was 35 DH was 34. We'd been together 2 years.

Wideboy Sat 19-Jan-13 15:56:55

As for how did I know I was ready - I just wanted to be with her all the time, so I thought the best thing was to marry her. Fortunately she agreed!

We got married at 26 after being together for 8 years.

Wideboy Sat 19-Jan-13 15:55:07

Broke off an engagement to be with now wife in 1973 at 22 years old. Hardest thing I have ever had to do but we married in 1976 and have had a great time since (well most of the time). Agree with other posters about growing up together and married life being an adventure. I tell her all the time that the best thing I ever did in my life was to marry her.

Married at 27 we had been together for five years. We have now been married for nearly four years and together for nine. grin

meditrina Sat 19-Jan-13 10:20:53

First discussed permanency/marriage after about 6 months, informally engaged after a year, formal announcements after another 6 months, wedding 6 months after that (so about 2 years total). I was 26 when we married, 3xchildren in my 30s, still together.

EvenBetter Sat 19-Jan-13 10:18:35

Married on our 6th anniversary when I was 26 after a 9 month engagement. Had been wanting it for the previous 4-ish years!

firesidechat Sat 19-Jan-13 10:18:28

Really wish there was an edit feature on this site.

We were friends before we went out with each other.
Dated for 3 months and then engaged for 3 months.
We both just knew we were right for each other.

WizardofOs Sat 19-Jan-13 10:17:38

Aged 27 been together 4 years before. Been married 12 years .

firesidechat Sat 19-Jan-13 10:15:49

Married at 20. Husband was 26.

Been happily married for 28 years.

Met at 18, engaged and married at 24.
First child at 28, second child at 30. We are both now 47.

Oh lord, I've just realised that we will have been together 30 years this year. There have been ups and downs of course but I love the very bones of him.

Losingexcessweight Sat 19-Jan-13 09:52:53

Got married at 24, exactly one year and two days later than our first date.

Got engaged 4 months after meeting

Been married 7 months and have a 3 month old baby

BalmainMummy Sat 19-Jan-13 09:43:45

Met at 20 (friends)
Together at 21
Engaged at 22
Married at 23
First Child together at 24

We are fast movers and so in love that we couldnt imagine waiting to commit to each other. Whats the point in waiting silly amounts of time when you know that its right, one of us could get knocked over by a bus tomorrow! You have to grab love when you can.

Ephiny Tue 11-Dec-12 12:04:26

I don't think there was a definite 'ready' moment for me either. It had been 10 years and I was in no doubt about whether we wanted to be together. It was just that when we decided to start a family we thought it might be sensible to get the legal paperwork sorted out sooner rather than later.

And there wasn't anything to be 'ready' for really. Life after marriage is pretty much the same as before smile

Ephiny Tue 11-Dec-12 12:00:58

30, after 10 years together. It was about the same time we decided we wanted to try for a baby (which was the main reason for getting married really). We got married 3 months after deciding we wanted to.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now