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Condom found in DH wallet

(36 Posts)
RaraLala Thu 06-Dec-12 16:50:14

Hi this is the first time that I have posted on here but I don't know where to turn. Two weeks ago I found a condom in DH's wallet (I was looking for some stamps) I am on the pill and we have no need for these. I have no idea what to do now and whether I should confront him or let sleeping dogs lie.

elfycat Thu 06-Dec-12 16:55:40

When is the expiry? Could be from a long time ago and forgotten about.

Kyte Thu 06-Dec-12 16:56:41

What elfycat said. Have you ever used condoms?

BeataNoxPotter Thu 06-Dec-12 16:56:44

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ohfunnyface Thu 06-Dec-12 16:58:01

Look at the expiry.

I'd have to ask.

BOFingSanta Thu 06-Dec-12 16:59:54

People really don't put condoms in other people's wallets, truly, they don't. But it could have been in there for a long time.

BOFingSanta Thu 06-Dec-12 17:00:50

(the other daft suggestion will be "posh wank". Again, nah, doesn't happen.)

AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow Thu 06-Dec-12 17:01:38

Yes, have you looked in his wallet before? how long have you been together etc. Is a normal single bloke thing, so could have been there ages.

Spons Thu 06-Dec-12 17:05:18

Think you've got to just ask him, how long have you been together? Could have been in there longer than you have been together?

Santa- know what you're saying, and not quite the same but on a friends stag do, one 'lad' put condoms in his 'friends' suitcase as they were coming home, knowing it would cause an almighty row with his (already known for being jealous) girlfriend. Some people are awful, but putting in wallet would be going a bit far.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Thu 06-Dec-12 17:06:56

Why would you not tackle this ? I don't understand it when people consider letting "sleeping dogs lie".

Would you generally shut your mind to anything in that case ?

That takes some humungous disassociation to that...effectively brainwashing yourself.

There is an explanation for this, OP, I don't see how you could rest easy until you find out what it is.

Mu1berries Thu 06-Dec-12 17:07:45

Look in a few weeks and see if the same condom is still there, or a different one. I don't think there is an innocent explanation for PUTTING a condom in your wwallet though (in his shoes). I wouldn't shrug over his wanting to be an opportunistic shagger.

hf128219 Thu 06-Dec-12 17:08:33

Golly our local railway station hand them out at Christmas time. It's just one in a small padded envelope. I thought it was a free tea bag!

Ask him.

Lavenderhoney Thu 06-Dec-12 19:29:35

2 weeks ago?! Thats a long time to be worried. I would ask him. Is he away a lot, what does he do during lunch hours?

Also, what's the expiry date on it? It could have been there for years. But tbh I doubt it. Get him a wallet for Christmas and see if he puts one in it. Did you do a search for the other one, don't they come in packs?

What do you think yourself op, is he playing away?

ledkr Thu 06-Dec-12 19:35:06

Good grief ask him!
I admire your self control tbh, if I found a condom in dh's wallet I'd track him down to where he was at that moment and screech at him like a fishwife and demand to know wtf it was doing there. If he didn't have a feasible response I'd pack his friggin bags for him.

MadAboutHotChoc Thu 06-Dec-12 19:37:00

Two weeks?! why leave it so long?

How are things with him? has his behaviour changed? distant/critical? possessive with his phone/laptop?

EdithWeston Thu 06-Dec-12 19:37:20

Have you been checking upon him in other ways in the past two weeks? Found out anything else?

MadAboutHotChoc Thu 06-Dec-12 19:37:28

Is the condom still there?

Dish it up on a plate in front of him next time you get a chance to look in his wallet, see what his reaction is. He has to be carying it for a sexual reason, unless he is in the SAS , think they carry water in them.

BelaLugosisShed Thu 06-Dec-12 19:46:18

Has anyone else noticed how there is a "found condom" thread approximately every 3/4 months on here and they are never, ever, resolved?
It started around 4 years ago and it's very odd.

GinSoakedMu1berryLush Thu 06-Dec-12 21:00:21

hf12189, nothing to do with a condom here, but you always had great sleb gossip. have you any ? i feel like a bit of speculation and sleb gossip. it's the gluvein, has me all in the mood for shock shock over the slebs' antics.

RaraLala Fri 07-Dec-12 10:18:19

Well I confronted DH last night about it (had a couple of glasses of Rose to build up the courage). He said that it was an old one from when we started dating three years ago. I have to take him at his word although stupidly I forgot to check the expiry date. He did seem very defensive though but this may have been because of the subject of our conversation.

AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow Fri 07-Dec-12 10:22:06

Schoolboy error rara what now? you happy with that? Genuine question.

ledkr Fri 07-Dec-12 10:25:25

Hmmmm that wouldn't satisfy me I'm afraid. Check date ASAP

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Fri 07-Dec-12 10:27:35

Why don't you ask him to show you it?

Tbh I found a condom in handbag I hadn't used since me and dh were first together.
dh doesn't know which bags I do and don't use.

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