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i am desperate please help me

(59 Posts)
sosotiredagain123 Sat 01-Dec-12 00:04:35

I posted earlier about dh and he lost it about an hour ago kicked punched etc and then woke dc up and said mummy hit me i have told dc i did not and am leavibg tomorrow they do not know whether not to come i can't leave then

JuliaFlyte Tue 04-Dec-12 12:14:25

OP if you get a chance, would you update us? I am worrying about you, and I'm sure others are too

didipickles Sat 01-Dec-12 20:57:29

please phone police now. i regret not pressing charges against my ex a year on its come back to bite me. i know its hard but you have to to protect your children. take photos of injuries. please take care xx

CaliforniaLeaving Sat 01-Dec-12 20:52:12

I hope you are somewhere safe Soso. Let us know when you can.

beeny Sat 01-Dec-12 14:03:51

Hope you are okay x

puds11 Sat 01-Dec-12 10:21:11

Hi op i hope your ok! Be strong, you can do this! Your children will be safer away from him. Forget about what will happen to him, and think about you and your children. He's a bad man.

waltermittymistletoe Sat 01-Dec-12 10:18:20

Please don't leave if you don't have somewhere safe to go.

Get him out. Phone the police and have him arrested. Then get to a solicitor first thing Monday.

Please don't leave your kids with him. Sending you loads of support!

beeny Sat 01-Dec-12 09:53:12

Please phone police.I am a criminal lawyer the police have heard all sorts of rubbish from the perpetrators of domestic violence,they wont fall for it.

stuffitunderthebed Sat 01-Dec-12 09:49:34

Hope you're ok OP.

joblot Sat 01-Dec-12 09:02:29

Good luck. Am rooting for you

sosotiredagain123 Sat 01-Dec-12 08:58:50

Just packing will up date later when I can

OP you ok?

mathanxiety Sat 01-Dec-12 03:20:31

Phone the police.

They will not look down at you for having a glass of wine or whatever. It is not a crime.

You are not putting his job in jeopardy by calling them. They will not do anything about charging him without your consent.

Calling the police is not a life changing decision where he loses his job and your children lose their home and schools. The police will come, check the facts and take him down to the station.

You get your breather. He gets to realise that you are not a punchbag and that there is a higher authority than him. It may be all he needs to get a sense of perspective. Or maybe not.

Either way, the police have him on their radar and this is a very good thing. Also, you get the incident recorded, and this is also a very good thing.

Don't let all the 'What Ifs' about his job and disrupting the children's lives swirl through your mind.
There is a lot of help and support out there for you and the police will see to it that you know where to turn, how to get the support you need. Your children need that support too. How do you think they feel having been woken up by this man the way he woke them tonight?

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered Sat 01-Dec-12 02:54:34

I haven't read your other thread but, as someone else said, it's very rare for everyone on Mumsnet to agree.
They all seem to agree here.
So please phone the police and end this nightmare for you and your children.
Be brave sweetheart. Pick up the phone. 999

CaliforniaLeaving Sat 01-Dec-12 02:31:02

Ca;; the Police sweetheart, you need to look out for you and protect the kids. He's adult he can take care of himself. Stay safe, call the Police and let them help you before he does even more damage. He has caused all this not you.

mum11970 Sat 01-Dec-12 02:19:28

Please, please phone the police now. Things will only get worse if you don"t. Hugs xx

NervousAt20 Sat 01-Dec-12 02:14:41

You poor thing hmm I think you should call the police and they will remove him tonight. I hope you and your DCs are safe and please remember this isn't your fault x

AlfalfaMum Sat 01-Dec-12 01:49:33

Sweetheart, he has put his job in jeopardy. His stupid job is not more important than your safety.
Please get help and get out of there.

I read your other post about how he makes you do absolutely everything and gets abusive if you don't (and even if you do sad). It will be obvious to everyone that you are the primary carer of the kids, the kids know who it is that does everything for them; there is no way in hell that man would get custody. Get them away from him, lest they grow up thinking this is normal.

Police. Now. You have injuries that he has inflicted, and the police will see them.

I had to do this many years ago. The policewomen who came round were amazing. They checked my bruises, and at NO TIME did they ever suggest that I was at fault, or disbelieve me. They made sure that DS was OK, and they arrested ex-DP immediately.

They told me over and over again, I HAD DONE THE RIGHT THING!

WandaDoff Sat 01-Dec-12 00:59:13

999. Please call it now.

Where are you?

feelokaboutit Sat 01-Dec-12 00:58:08

dear sosotired, I have to go to bed now, I have sent you a PM

SirBoobAlot Sat 01-Dec-12 00:53:37

Please call the police, and call them now, do not wait for the morning.

feelokaboutit Sat 01-Dec-12 00:52:21

the person who is supposed to love and value you the most has just kicked and punched you, this alone, never mind all his previous behaviour, is enough to warrant you and your children getting away from him forever

feelokaboutit Sat 01-Dec-12 00:50:35

having his job put in jeopardy is the very least of what he deserves, he should be in jail angry

Is his job more important tan your children's well being? Please, if you not do it for yourself do it for them

DollyTwat Sat 01-Dec-12 00:48:42

Stop worrying about him and do this for yourself and your dc
You'll never regret it

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