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Husband won't let my family visit

(115 Posts)
sosotiredagain123 Fri 30-Nov-12 18:29:07

DH has for the 2nd time in three months refused to let my parents visit they live over 200 miles away and I have not seen them since July but he wants quiet weekends

NoTeaForMe Fri 30-Nov-12 18:30:34

Think more information is needed. Why does he not want your family to visit? Is it purely because he wants quiet weekends or is there a problem between them?

kenanddreary Fri 30-Nov-12 18:31:32

Sounds unreasonable of him but without knowing the history of this it is really impossible to comment.

Is this the only thing you have tp ask his permission for - I'd tell my husband to get stuffed if he refused me anything (well anything that wasn't totally unreasonable).

HilaryClinton Fri 30-Nov-12 18:32:17

Is he proposing that you never see than again? Sounds like it. LTB

gordyslovesheep Fri 30-Nov-12 18:32:32

he is your husband not you overlord

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos Fri 30-Nov-12 18:32:34

Is the only reason that he wants quiet weekends? Is that justified because he works long and stressful hours? Do they usually get on with each other ok or is there a problem?

sosotiredagain123 Fri 30-Nov-12 18:32:38

He does not like them, I do not like his family but feel DC should see both sides he has just sworn at me in front of DC and said get out of my f house if you don't like it

pictish Fri 30-Nov-12 18:32:48

With so little to go on then he is being unreasonable.

What's his problem? Does he usually expect (and get) his own way over things?

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Fri 30-Nov-12 18:32:49

Can you visit them?

It is a bit strange that he is putting his foot down. Does his parents come to stay? Your parents and him, do they get on?

Does he get to decide most things in your family?

ENormaSnob Fri 30-Nov-12 18:33:02

His reasons are?

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 30-Nov-12 18:33:09

I would tell my DH to fuck off if he tried to stop my parents coming to visit.

But the situation wouldn't arise, because he wouldn't dream of doing something like that.

sosotiredagain123 Fri 30-Nov-12 18:33:50

He is becoming more and more controlling putting locks on computer at 11.30pm and threatening to reduce money for housekeeping etc. He works fulltime I work halftime but do all the chores and childcare etc

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Fri 30-Nov-12 18:34:06

If you are married, it is not his house. It is a marital asset, and belong to you as much as him. Do you work?

NotAnotherPackedLunch Fri 30-Nov-12 18:34:18

It's your home too. What gives him the right to stop your parents from visiting you in your own home? It's not as though they are with you every fortnight.
Maybe he should go away for the weekend and leave you to enjoy your parents company.

sosotiredagain123 Fri 30-Nov-12 18:34:22

Is refusing to let me visit them

aPirateInaPearTree Fri 30-Nov-12 18:34:23

nice.

how come it's 'his' house. think i'd be packing to be honest. sad

WelshMaenad Fri 30-Nov-12 18:34:46

Accept his kind invitation and LTB. He sounds like a cunt.

ZZZenAgain Fri 30-Nov-12 18:34:51

Well that doesn't sound good. Why is he so angry about it, does he have any real reason for not liking them?

How long have you been married?

sosotiredagain123 Fri 30-Nov-12 18:34:56

won't go away says it is his house we are married

SirBoobAlot Fri 30-Nov-12 18:35:03

He won't let your family visit because he doesn't like them, and he has just sworn at you in front of your children.

Please get some help to leave him.

pictish Fri 30-Nov-12 18:35:09

So he's a cunt then.

You need to do something about this, or your life will become a void. You poor woman!

sosotiredagain123 Fri 30-Nov-12 18:35:28

Married for 11 years. No reason for not liking them

JustFabulous Fri 30-Nov-12 18:35:48

I think it sounds an awful way to live and he is a prick.

pictish Fri 30-Nov-12 18:36:11

How can he stop you visiting your parents?

You say he won't 'let' you. It sounds as though you are in a terrible situation OP. I am very worried for you.

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