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Quick Condom Query

(51 Posts)
CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 18:28:35

So let's say you found a packet of Durex Extra Safe condoms in someone's overnight bag, would you jump to any conclusions about any particular sexual activities someone had been involved in ?

( Name-changing regular )

ISeeSmallPeople Thu 29-Nov-12 18:29:31

Some form of safe sex?
aren't they meant for anal? smile

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 18:33:26

That was my thought exactly, ISeeSmallPeople but I didn't know so decided the best bet was to ask the collective wisdom of MN.

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Thu 29-Nov-12 18:33:51

My friend bunged a handful of condoms into somebodys else s suitcase by mistake.

Her luck would have it that his suitcase fell open in the living room at their joint hosts, and his wife was looking as mortified as him. Being in their late fifties, the hosts raised their eye brows. The man took it all in his stride, winked at his wife and said "ooh, I am in for a treat this weekend" wink
shock

Could there be a similar explanation, op?

<hopeful>

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Thu 29-Nov-12 18:34:34

oh, I know nothing of the north east passage.

ISeeSmallPeople Thu 29-Nov-12 18:38:32

They are the ones the FPCs used to give out for free, unless you asked for nice ones smile

EdithWeston Thu 29-Nov-12 18:41:20

They're on offer in Ocado at the moment. Might just mean they're thrifty.

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 18:42:13

Oh no, not a similar explanation, NotQuint, but thank you - I had a pretty good idea he'd disappeared off to shag someone, this is just confirmation. I also wondered what sex the shagee might be.

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 18:44:14

No, he'll have bought them specifically and wouldn't be caught dead in a family planning clinic ( he is 'thrifty' but wouldn't have got them from Ocado ).

CajaDeLaMemoria Thu 29-Nov-12 18:44:43

We were told not to use Extra Safe condoms for anal sex.

They gave us a memorable little mantra: "Don't be Extra Safe for Anal Sex".

We turned it into a joke (being typical students) and would use it as a goodbye message, telling people who were going on dates etc to not be extra safe if they had anal. The new dates would look so embarrassed.

Mwah haha.

CajaDeLaMemoria Thu 29-Nov-12 18:46:08

Ah, cross posts. Apologies then - If I'd read that first I wouldn't have said anything. It seems very inappropriate now.

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 18:47:42

Oh no, Caja, please don't apologise, nothing inappropriate about it.

amothersplaceisinthewrong Thu 29-Nov-12 18:49:38

My DH once found a pack of strawberry flavoured condoms in the gents of a pub. He brought them home - Of course I had to try them out and they did not taste that nice!!!!

ErikNorseman Thu 29-Nov-12 18:53:23

Are you ok? I'm guessing this is your partner? sad

BitBewildered Thu 29-Nov-12 18:54:57

Caja why wouldn't you use extra safe for anal? <sheltered life>

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 18:56:11

I've never seen the point of flavoured condoms, I mean, how does that enhance anything ? I always imagine they must taste like someone had rubbed a cheap sweet on a rubber band. It's nice that he bought you a present back from the pub, although I think I'd prefer a packet of crisps and a Bacardi Breezer.

ImperialBlether Thu 29-Nov-12 18:56:53

OP, so sorry you found those. It must have been a terrible shock. What makes you think he's likely to be up to something? And why do you wonder which gender?

I think people's responses are based on their own partners. If I'd found them in my ex's bag I would know he'd been unfaithful. Other men I've known I might have believed some innocent explanation.

CajaDeLaMemoria Thu 29-Nov-12 18:58:04

I have no idea why. They were very sure that we needed to know this though. Got everyone in to a big meeting with four speakers, telling us that condoms were a very good idea for anal, but that extra safe condoms should not be used under any circumstances.

He said if it was a choice between an extra safe condom or nothing, we should go with nothing.

We all just found it hilarious that we were having talks on anal sex, really. We were so mature :P

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 18:58:10

I'm fine, Erik, thank you for asking. Our marriage has been over for a long time, not least because he refused point blank to have sex with me for several years and would never tell me why.

purplecrayon Thu 29-Nov-12 18:58:56

More relevant would be how many condoms were missing from the box.

Re the extra safe, not sure really. A bloke having an affair might think he is being "extra safe" not getting the other woman pregnant?

BertieBotts Thu 29-Nov-12 19:02:12

It might be for anal but also might not - I've used them for normal sex when I had no intention of having anal. Sometimes they're the only "normal" type condoms available in the shop in the array of flavoured, ribbed, minty etc.

Why are extra safe bad for anal BTW? I always thought they were recommended...

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 19:05:53

ImperialBlether, that's ok, like I say he'd refused to have sex with me for several years, and even when we were having what I will loosely term a sexual relationship, it was, at the very most on around 10 occasions in a year, from the very beginning of the relationship. I had often wondered if he might be gay and so thought the condoms might be of a type recommended for anal sex ( I don't snoop, ever, we lead separate lives, I wanted to use the bag ).

CSIScunthorpe Thu 29-Nov-12 19:08:41

I didn't look in the box, Purple, I was a little surprised and didn't really want to pry further.

BitBewildered Thu 29-Nov-12 19:10:05

CSI I'm sorry too. Regardless of anything, it's not nice to be confronted with something like that.

mathanxiety Thu 29-Nov-12 19:15:41

He sounds like my exH tbh.

If it's over to all intents and purposes, do you have any sort of plan?

Sometimes you will not get the definitive answer you think you need and a high probability along with looking long and hard at the way things really are, and asking if you want to keep at it for another ten weeks let alone another ten years, will give you enough of an answer to get started on Life Plan B.

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