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AIBU to feel pissed off with BF

(61 Posts)
VeryComplex Mon 26-Nov-12 22:49:23

We have been seeing each other 4 weeks.

We were chatting online tonight and he just logged of abruptly saying he had an early start.

(No earlier than normal, and normally he says it doesn't matter as he loves chatting to me). We are meant to be meeting tomorrow and he didn't mention it or confirm arrangements I am feeling used and mightily pissed off with him. I feel like telling him to go F*ck himself and ending it.

I called him and no reply. No answer to text either.

AIBU (or over reacting?)

VeryComplex Tue 27-Nov-12 00:03:39

Glad some of you agree it was rude. And yes it was out of character.

He knows re feelings - yes.

Met at work. Not known to friends.

CuriousMama Tue 27-Nov-12 00:06:26

Oh well good luck to you. It's all so intense though isn't it? I've been there done that and hate it when they go cool all of a sudden. Hopefully for you this isn't the case and he has a good reason? Perhaps his internet went down? And then he dropped his phone in the bath? wink

Have you met any of his friends/family yet? Or is it too soon?

VeryComplex Tue 27-Nov-12 00:08:33

Curious - no too soon, although I work with a mutual friend also.

It is hard when they 'go cool' - which is exactly how it feels :-(

I just feel in heart this is beginning of end.

CuriousMama Tue 27-Nov-12 00:14:05

Wait and see. I hope you sleep ok? Am off now night chick.

skiesmylimit Tue 27-Nov-12 15:12:22

How are you today?

ClippedPhoenix Tue 27-Nov-12 16:02:20

Yes OP what he did was rude.

He loves you and you haven't met?

He's leading you right up the garden path.

I wouldn't wait around here...... I'd be thinking NEXT.

And would have learned not to do all this squillions of contact from a dating site.

ClippedPhoenix Tue 27-Nov-12 16:05:37

Sorry, I totally misread all that didn't I blush

You met at work - how many times have you seen him?

I'd say he's cooled right off and my NEXT still stands though.

VeryComplex Tue 27-Nov-12 19:13:42

Clipped - we've been out 7 or 8 times.
Skies - thanks for asking, am feeling less despondent!
Curious - thanks for your concern.

We met up today. His explanation for last night was that he suddenly got really tired and when that happens he just 'hits a brick wall' and needs to sleep. He said phone was on silent last night. He acknowledged I was feeling upset about it and said sorry.

MummysHappyPills Tue 27-Nov-12 21:41:58

So all is good then! Please stop worrying. It is early days, don't try and force it. If it is meant to be it will work out. Just relax and enjoy! grin

MummysHappyPills Tue 27-Nov-12 21:43:32

And fwiw last night I fell asleep on the sofa about 9pm, and when dp tried to get me upstairs to bed I was babbling incoherently so I can kind of empathise with being that tired!

MrsFlibble Tue 27-Nov-12 21:54:22

VeryComplex, dont over analyse things, coz it'll just drive you crazy, i did many times and im learning just to shut up and stop it, its much better that way.

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