After your relationship had ended, how long did it take for you to feel ready to want to date again?

[SoleSource]

Four years for me. Just feel like meeting guys for coffee or a walk around town.

Still nervous and a bit unsure of my own judgement though.

[BertieBotts]

In my experience I felt ready way before I was ready.

[SoleSource]

Yrah, I have been asked out four.times and I have politely declined. I feel ready now but might not be.

[BertieBotts]

I don't know, four years is quite a long time :) Why not try something casual - I don't mean casual sex, but using a dating website or something - where there's nothing big invested in that person like an existing friendship, and you both know that it might be nothing, so there's less pressure? And see how you feel?

Was your last relationship abusive? If you don't mind me asking.

[SoleSource]

Yes, abusive as in he lied a lot and led me on. Used me.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

I couldn't give you a time-frame. All I know is that my first few dates were judged relatively harshly & despatched without much ceremony. :) The relationship that had ended was with a very needy, 'damaged', user type with emotional blackmail tendencies. Never had the courage to chuck him, so any hint at similar behaviour from others and I ended it.

I think it's worth a toe in the water if only to exercise your dump muscle