Am 45 & have been with boyfriend (47) for 21 months. Get on great - never had a cross word. I was married to a very controlling man for 20 yrs but finally got out 3yrs ago. Boyfriend married way too young wife cheated on him with his then best friend & he's spent the last 16yrs shagging around & avoiding relationships. We just clicked - neither of us knew what we wanted but we did know what we didn't want !! We've been on holiday together twice & met each other's children & families and it's lovely.
But there's a fly in the ointment .... his best friend has recently split from his girlfriend (from hell !) of 7yrs & is trying to 'get his toe back in the water' on the dating scene. Boyfriend & I have been very supportive during split & have just set him up on match.com (technophobe !) but he's constantly nagging my boyfriend to go on boys night out because boyfriend is such an 'expert with women' (don't like to disillusion either of them that shagging around does not make you an expert on women ... just on shagging !!). So at the wkend boyfriend tells me he's promised to go out with him this Saturday (usually one of our nights together).
Now this isn't a trust issue with me - I trust him completely. He often works away 2/3 days a week & we've both been away with our own friends since being together. And I don't have a problem with him going out with his friends & of course it's not like I expect him to never talk to another woman. It's just that the whole purpose of this night out is to meet women & boyfriend actually said friend stands a better chance of meeting someone if he's with him !! Add to this that said friend flirts outrageously with me whenever I see him (in front of boyfriend) and often makes remarks about boyfriends 'past' and I just feel seriously uncomfortable.
I don't want this to be the cause of our first argument but I need to try and explain how I feel- which I guess is basically that his friend does not respect our relationship and that I feel offended by the premise of the whole evening.
Thoughts please.
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Am I right to feel unhappy about this ?
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Marsbarcheesecake · 26/11/2012 19:23
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