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As a femaley womany type how do I show a guy I fancy him?

(214 Posts)
SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 16:33:59

Help!!

dequoisagitil Sat 24-Nov-12 16:35:13

Lick his ear.

noseinabook Sat 24-Nov-12 16:36:53

Flick your hair and bite your lip ....

SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 16:38:58

Lol oooh the shames!! blush

BeerTricksPott3r Sat 24-Nov-12 16:43:06

Say "I fancy you. How about it?"

SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 16:45:17

BeerTricks!! I am shocked and....

Ooh no, the children aree on the bus..

AND I AM AS FAT AS A HOUSE

WrathdePan Sat 24-Nov-12 16:46:05

Ask him out. There is no other way with most men. We ( one here) are remarkably unintuitive about this stuff.

SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 16:48:14

I'm fat so doomed to singledom.

SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 16:50:37

Wrath if a woman asked you out and you did not fancy her, one jot. What would be your response?

BeerTricksPott3r Sat 24-Nov-12 16:51:58

Oh poppycock to the Fat thing.

Either he fancies you back or he doesn't. Ask him out for a coffee, or a trip round an exhibition, something definite and with the focus away from any 'datey' stuff.

SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 16:54:49

I am terrified of rejection Beer. I've had so much I should be used to it. But for meit diesn't fel tbat way. He picks myDS up for school everyday so maybe be inappropriate.....?

WrathdePan Sat 24-Nov-12 16:55:38

It would be/has been: "Wow. Thank you for asking, but I am really not looking to go out with anyone. But it's extremely nice of you to ask".

WrathdePan Sat 24-Nov-12 16:57:40

it's also how you say it.

Poppycock to the fat thing too. It'll make you feel far more vulnerable than it actually is. Evidence? LOTS of overweight women have good men in their lives.

IAmSoFuckingRock Sat 24-Nov-12 16:58:50

i've never asked a man out. like you sole, i'm terrified of rejection.

i like Pan's response. i could cope with that. if i was sure i would get a nice rejection like that i would probably be a bit more confident in the whole asking thing. but i wont. 'cause some people aren't nice.

IAmSoFuckingRock Sat 24-Nov-12 16:59:47

and lots of skinny girls have no men! personality far more important.

WrathdePan Sat 24-Nov-12 17:00:18

yep to the personality thing.

Fear of rejection is far more likely to be getting in the way of a relationship than being overweight.

SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 17:02:34

Example

Hello [no idea of his name]

I was wondering. Fancy a bounce on a four poster,?

BeerTricksPott3r Sat 24-Nov-12 17:03:33

You may not be his type, not because you are overweight, but for other reasons, entirely down to him and no reflection on you at all.

Is he picking your DS up in a professional capacity? that could be awkward, if you have to keep on seeing him everyday.

AnyFucker Sat 24-Nov-12 17:04:04

Do you actually have a four poster ?

Because that wouldn't work if you didn't smile

Save that for the second date grin

Do you know anything about him that could start a conversation?

BeerTricksPott3r Sat 24-Nov-12 17:04:56

"Would you like to come for a coffee at X, on Sat/Sun/whenever?" would be better, you fast cat grin

SoleSource Sat 24-Nov-12 17:05:17

True Beer

Erm no I don't AF lol

InNeedOfBrandy Sat 24-Nov-12 17:06:02

I asked a man out, it was the whole omg I can't even think straight around him, felt sick the butterflies were going so hard. We ended up shagging for 6 months, he was going to put me in his aunties house (cos I only have a flat and was maoning about wanting a garden) and I realised no way could I shga him forever to keep a roof over mine and dc head. I still fancy him now but I see it's physical and we don't actually match apart from the sex it was fucking amazing, but I had to do it because I thought well I can't get old and sit in an old people home thinking I wish I did.

I asked his friend for his bb pin (he had already met me at a party) and we arranged a date, I didn't specifically say oh I fancy you I text so whats good and it went from there. He asked me out and obviously fancied me back.

I do think I wasted a lot of head space on him but I don't regret it I had to find out if that omg I want to shag him and I can't think about anything else meant anything more.

dequoisagitil Sat 24-Nov-12 17:06:39

You don't know his name?

Try having a conversation with him. Then see if you still want to ask him out.

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