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If your ex...

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Pickles77 Sat 17-Nov-12 20:33:04

Suddenly decided to tell you he wanted to try again with your 9 week old baby after he made you leave at 24 weeks pregnant to go back to your parents, and leave your job. Whilst he spent your pregnancy in bed with someone you hate, what would you do?

Especially if you had just met someone wonderful else

With no deceleration of love or anything.

I really hope you agree with the four letter phrase with the last word ending off I just directed at him

seaofyou Sat 17-Nov-12 20:53:50

I think he is extremely jealous you are happy and just wants to mess your life up again...their is no going back after that! My ex asked me to take him back at 8 months pregnant because he had a row with the internet GF so wanted to jump back in my bed for 5 mins! I said 'you made your bed'!

I remember you Pickles when it happened and I was really worried for you and unborn baby don't let the abusive twunt have chance to do it again!
He had 25 weeks to come back to you and beg forgiveness and undying love...he hasn't done that yet...he just wants to screw you over again and you have been bitten once already...he was very cruel to you at the most vulnerable time of your life.

By the way congrats on the birth of your newborn babysmile

Whocansay Sat 17-Nov-12 20:56:24

How does the MN phrase go?

"Fuck the fuck off to the far side of fuck and then fuck off some more"

I think that should cover it.

All the best OP wink

LouMacca Sat 17-Nov-12 20:58:30

As above......

Pickles77 Sat 17-Nov-12 20:59:03

I used the MN phrase!! Can you believe that?!

Hello sea I remember your kind words, thank you they really helped. Thank you for posting smile

HecatePropylaea Sat 17-Nov-12 20:59:52

I'd think HA! You must be kidding, pal. Go back when you've got away from someone who treated you like shit? I think not.

Whocansay Sat 17-Nov-12 21:04:11

I bet it felt good telling him where to go!
Good for you!

I have not yet had the occasion to use the phrase, but I will... grin

seaofyou Sat 17-Nov-12 21:04:16

It's lovely to hear you have met your lovely baby now and he/she will help you heal from all this hurt by lots of MASSIVE hugs {{{{Pickles}}}}

ErikNorseman Sat 17-Nov-12 21:09:56

I'd laugh in his face grin

WildWorld2004 Sat 17-Nov-12 21:17:34

Id laugh in his face and then use the MN phrase. What a bastard he is.

SoleSource Sat 17-Nov-12 23:09:00

Block the using cunt.

xmasevebundle Sat 17-Nov-12 23:40:39

No pickles grin

Remember all the times hes use to make you feel like shit, asked when you was pregnant to try make a go at things and he blanked you...

Blank the twat back!

I really want to know what pickles dog thinks of this.... grin

Hope you and DD are okay x

Pickles77 Sun 18-Nov-12 06:26:23

Thank you everyone. smile

I thought the line 'I think we should try again for dd's sake, we could have a nice life' was the icing on the cake.

Not good enough for us for by a long way. Still hasn't bought DD anything hmm

MakeItALarge Mon 19-Nov-12 00:03:35

Ive read a few of your other threads pickles and Im SO impressed you sent the mn answer grin

What a deluded idiot he must be!

CanYouHearMe Mon 19-Nov-12 00:09:28

He might just have realised his mistake?

It is possible that he may have seen the light and wants to make a go of things. You know him best OP.

nametakenagain Mon 19-Nov-12 00:12:57

Ohhhhh, my heart goes out to you, that's rotten. But at the same time, gratifying. My unqualified advice is to be calm and patient and see how the land lies. Imagine what life will be in 5 years. What do you want for then?

Pickles77 Mon 19-Nov-12 02:53:24

I unfortunately can't forgive him. I love him dearly for giving me the most precious fb but that is not enough to heal the hurt.

My whole life had to change, I've had to rebuild from scratch. Had severe depression. Missed out on enjoying a pregnancy and he thinks that telling me he wants to 'try' is enough for me to uproot us all again. NO.

He only wants to know as i met someone else, who supports the big career change and life change I've just decided on. He is realising now what he is missing. It's been a fight for him to bond with DD.
It's a classic case of i don't think I want you but I don't want anyone else to have you either.

besides our physical relationship wasn't good enough to go back grin

Pickles77 Mon 19-Nov-12 16:09:56

Or could I be just fooling myself?
Deep down I do love him. He gave me DD

MakeItALarge Mon 19-Nov-12 16:20:24

If he does want to try then he should be starting by making an effort with your dd!

Im not going to say dont go back because its your mistake wink choice but you know he is only doing it out of jealousy.

If he has suddenly turned into a nice decent human being then he will understand you need time to think and that in the meantime he should be showing you he's sorry by being the best dad he can

Pickles77 Mon 19-Nov-12 16:21:43

Yes true!
No rolling over from me. I guess time will bring what will be around.
Thank you x

ErikNorseman Mon 19-Nov-12 16:22:59

You would be fooling yourself to give him another go. Really.

Well done Pickles! Every time I think you can't get any more fabulous, you do something like this grin good for you, he's an arse goblin.

Anniegetyourgun Mon 19-Nov-12 16:31:14

So, this "we" who is/are going to "try again"... does that mean he is going to try really hard not to fall over onto another woman this time, with or without throwing you out of the house; and did it by any chance include the word "sorry"? As in "I cannot begin to tell you how very, very, very..."

Pickles77 Mon 19-Nov-12 16:33:10

It would just be a dream really, it's what I wanted but it's too late.
Although its what I always wanted

Pickles77 Mon 19-Nov-12 16:34:24

I just realised he didn't say sorry sad
He said he would have to try and get over the hurt that I had caused by walking out on him hmm

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