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Suddenly decided to tell you he wanted to try again with your 9 week old baby after he made you leave at 24 weeks pregnant to go back to your parents, and leave your job. Whilst he spent your pregnancy in bed with someone you hate, what would you do?

Especially if you had just met someone wonderful else

With no deceleration of love or anything.

I really hope you agree with the four letter phrase with the last word ending off I just directed at him

I think he is extremely jealous you are happy and just wants to mess your life up again...their is no going back after that! My ex asked me to take him back at 8 months pregnant because he had a row with the internet GF so wanted to jump back in my bed for 5 mins! I said 'you made your bed'!

I remember you Pickles when it happened and I was really worried for you and unborn baby don't let the abusive twunt have chance to do it again!
He had 25 weeks to come back to you and beg forgiveness and undying love...he hasn't done that yet...he just wants to screw you over again and you have been bitten once already...he was very cruel to you at the most vulnerable time of your life.

By the way congrats on the birth of your newborn baby

How does the MN phrase go?

"Fuck the fuck off to the far side of fuck and then fuck off some more"

I think that should cover it.

All the best OP

As above......

I used the MN phrase!! Can you believe that?!

Hello sea I remember your kind words, thank you they really helped. Thank you for posting

I'd think HA! You must be kidding, pal. Go back when you've got away from someone who treated you like shit? I think not.

I bet it felt good telling him where to go!
Good for you!

I have not yet had the occasion to use the phrase, but I will...

It's lovely to hear you have met your lovely baby now and he/she will help you heal from all this hurt by lots of MASSIVE hugs {{{{Pickles}}}}

I'd laugh in his face

Id laugh in his face and then use the MN phrase. What a bastard he is.

Block the using cunt.

No pickles

Remember all the times hes use to make you feel like shit, asked when you was pregnant to try make a go at things and he blanked you...

Blank the twat back!

I really want to know what pickles dog thinks of this....

Hope you and DD are okay x

Thank you everyone.

I thought the line 'I think we should try again for dd's sake, we could have a nice life' was the icing on the cake.

Not good enough for us for by a long way. Still hasn't bought DD anything

Ive read a few of your other threads pickles and Im SO impressed you sent the mn answer

What a deluded idiot he must be!

He might just have realised his mistake?

It is possible that he may have seen the light and wants to make a go of things. You know him best OP.

Ohhhhh, my heart goes out to you, that's rotten. But at the same time, gratifying. My unqualified advice is to be calm and patient and see how the land lies. Imagine what life will be in 5 years. What do you want for then?

I unfortunately can't forgive him. I love him dearly for giving me the most precious fb but that is not enough to heal the hurt.

My whole life had to change, I've had to rebuild from scratch. Had severe depression. Missed out on enjoying a pregnancy and he thinks that telling me he wants to 'try' is enough for me to uproot us all again. NO.

He only wants to know as i met someone else, who supports the big career change and life change I've just decided on. He is realising now what he is missing. It's been a fight for him to bond with DD.
It's a classic case of i don't think I want you but I don't want anyone else to have you either.

besides our physical relationship wasn't good enough to go back

Or could I be just fooling myself?
Deep down I do love him. He gave me DD

If he does want to try then he should be starting by making an effort with your dd!

Im not going to say dont go back because its your mistake choice but you know he is only doing it out of jealousy.

If he has suddenly turned into a nice decent human being then he will understand you need time to think and that in the meantime he should be showing you he's sorry by being the best dad he can

Yes true!
No rolling over from me. I guess time will bring what will be around.
Thank you x

You would be fooling yourself to give him another go. Really.

Well done Pickles! Every time I think you can't get any more fabulous, you do something like this good for you, he's an arse goblin.

So, this "we" who is/are going to "try again"... does that mean he is going to try really hard not to fall over onto another woman this time, with or without throwing you out of the house; and did it by any chance include the word "sorry"? As in "I cannot begin to tell you how very, very, very..."

It would just be a dream really, it's what I wanted but it's too late.
Although its what I always wanted

I just realised he didn't say sorry
He said he would have to try and get over the hurt that I had caused by walking out on him