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Omg!!!! I've just found out

(164 Posts)
Stopthepidgeon Sat 17-Nov-12 16:15:18

Okay - so following on from my should I should I not track my cheating husband thread .....

He has taken our dc out to visit his parents - and left his computer open

I am dumbstruck to find out he has secret savings in excess of £1 million!!

This is not a stealth boast - I am in total shock

LoopsInHoops Sat 17-Nov-12 16:16:38

Screenshot. email to yourself. And your solicitor.

What Loops said.

Whatnowffs Sat 17-Nov-12 16:17:42

Fuck, i don't know whether to be happy for you or worried - why hasn't he told you about this? At least you wont have to be worrying about paying the mortgage this month!! Wow. But hang on, you don't trust him do you? obviously you have reason not to trust him, is he planning on leaving and avoiding paying maintainance? You need legal advice i think.

B1ueberryS0rbet Sat 17-Nov-12 16:17:52

Wow. Screen shot and email it to yourself. flipping heck.

LemonBreeland Sat 17-Nov-12 16:18:47

I haven't seen your previous thread but thst must be an incredible shock.

Get all the evidence you can.

Sunnywithachanceofshowers Sat 17-Nov-12 16:19:40

WTAF

Screen shot and email. Sheesh!

Is that possible?!

Where has he got the money from do you think?

I don't know your background so maybe he is a big shot banker but £1m isn't easy to amass without you knowing about it. Just hope it isn't illegal in some way.

Stopthepidgeon Sat 17-Nov-12 16:44:56

I've screen shot it.

I keep looking to make sure I've read it right and that it isn't a debt - its not a debt as I've seen a statement of him making regular payments into this account

I'm pretty sure it's legit - he's always been shrewd cautious with his money - hence a house falling down around us, etc etc.

I don't know what to do. We are supposed to be trying to move forward after his affair ...... Tbh it is very difficult as he's broken my trust and broken his marriage vows ....

SecretCervix Sat 17-Nov-12 16:49:53

He has got over a million pounds saved up for what, a rainy decade? And you all are living in a house that is falling down around your ears?

Confront him. This wouldn't sit right with me.

LadyFlumpalot Sat 17-Nov-12 16:53:39

Wow...

I know what I'd be doing if I found out that my cheating husband had £1million and had left his online bank account open... Only thing is, I think he might notice the £70k supercar in the driveway...

In all seriousness, email the screenshot to yourself at a safe email address, and one to your solicitor.

Crumbs. I'm not sure if I should be happy or sad for you!

Lavenderhoney Sat 17-Nov-12 16:57:04

Don't bank accounts online close after 10 mins? You must have leapt on the pc!

Get a will sorted out as you have to list all your assets and where you want them to go, dc money in trust, trustees, and who would look after them should the worst happen. You need a proper will person to do all this as they can advise etc, but it's wrth the money, very good idea anyway and it will all have to come out.

It ( I hope) is offshore But it will still be on the will.

NotQuintAtAllOhNo Sat 17-Nov-12 16:59:52

Wow.

I dont know your backstory, but naturally he is keen to move forward WITH you, as moving on without you, could mean he had to give you half of that in divorce settlement.

Now, you sure you want to be with a liar and a cheat?

vintageviolets Sat 17-Nov-12 17:03:39

Screen Shot & show us nosey

Then LTB & take half the wonga I would

mercury7 Sat 17-Nov-12 17:06:48

thats a helluva slush fund!!!

quoteunquote Sat 17-Nov-12 17:06:56

Screen shot and email it to yourself, email it to your solicitor, and create a new email account (that no one knows about) and email it to that.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

mamij Sat 17-Nov-12 17:11:01

Just stumbled on this thread so don't know your background. Good thing you screenshot it.

Agree with making a will with a solicitor as it means you (and DCs) won't be left without anything. Doesn't sound right it's tucked away if your house is falling down around you.

BloominMarvellous Sat 17-Nov-12 17:11:02

I'd certainly question his motives for staying with you after finding that. Knowing that he would have to give a sum in the settlement.

Definatley seek legal advice, don't let on at all that you know. That gives him time to move it somewhere.

MorrisZapp Sat 17-Nov-12 17:11:15

Woah that's not right. I'd just ask him straight out.

JustFabulous Sat 17-Nov-12 17:16:38

You sure it isn't false to trick you? Seems a bit stupid to leave it open if it is a secret.

LoopsInHoops Sat 17-Nov-12 17:24:02

Don't ask him. Go to solicitors first. He sounds very sly.

Abitwobblynow Sat 17-Nov-12 18:02:45

Pigeon, DO NOT CONFRONT.

I need to warn you, that secrets, are power plays. They are used by passive aggressive people for a secret boost at getting one over you/being cleverer than you.

My IC told me this about affairs.

This man has hidden two huge secrets from you.

Be very careful, look after yourself, get Lundy Bancroft Should I Stay Or Should I Go. Wow that is the most eye-opening book on how we women sell ourselves short on true living and joy I have ever read.

And when if you ever get shot of this sad loser for a better, fuller, richer life, forensic accountant.

ike1 Sat 17-Nov-12 18:07:21

Dont confront. See a solicitor next week. He has not told you incase you divorce.

GhostShip Sat 17-Nov-12 18:47:26

I have no reason not to believe you, but how on earth did you get to the PC in time to see his accounts?

£1million??? Facking hell. Out of curiosity how much did you think he makes a year?

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