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Are middle age women a turn off for middle aged men?

(54 Posts)
nolongerattractive Fri 16-Nov-12 10:46:32

I say this because this is the impression I get from OH. He will make a point of looking at young, slim, attractive ladies but I dont notice him looking at ladies of his own age group 50+. Are we middle aged ladies a turn off for men? I know George Clooney would'nt fancy me grin

DoIlooklikeapeopleperson Fri 16-Nov-12 10:51:23

Well I'm 49 & I tend to notice men of around 30 - middle aged men don't do a lot for me grin
I'd say men & women are the same where this sort of thing is concerned.

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 16-Nov-12 10:52:02

My current middle-aged boyfriend has a bit of 'thing' for Nigella and Tanya Beckett (who he thinks I look like, the sweet, mad creature that he is). So your OH is either being a) boring and stereotypically 'laddish' or b) deludes himself that he's still young slim and attractive....

PostBellumBugsy Fri 16-Nov-12 10:52:09

I find 25 year old men more attractive than most 50 year old men (including George Clooney), however I hope I would never be crass enough to indicate that to my partner/ husband etc.

PerryCombover Fri 16-Nov-12 10:54:47

Y in the same way middle aged men are for us.
Start saying Hubba Hubba about mid 20s men in front of your h
In fact maybe be a little more crude from time to time...see how he finds it

ReallyTired Fri 16-Nov-12 10:56:16

I suppose the reality is that middle aged women aren't fertile. The male brain unconciously knows that he stands less chance of getting middle aged women pregnant. From an evolutionary point of view having sex with middle aged women is a waste of time.

HullyEastergully Fri 16-Nov-12 10:58:59

Um..George Clooney ain't gonna be looking your way no matter how old you are.

izzyizin Fri 16-Nov-12 10:59:58

Mr Clooney may have reasons for not fancying you which are entirely unconnected with your age wink

The older I get the more I appreciate the sheer physical beauty of youth. Although I had more than my share of stunning young men, I'm convinced that they didn't make them quite as divinely attractive in my younger years as they are today. <born too early emoticon>

Startail Fri 16-Nov-12 11:01:56

Of course men eye up younger women, I eye up the man in our off licence. He's young enough to be my son.

It is as really tired says totally natural.

It's only a problem if your DH doesn't still fancy you or you him.

Oh and I do feel free to clip him round the ear if he talks too much about younger womenwink

Lovingfreedom Fri 16-Nov-12 12:15:38

Plenty of young guys fancy older women though. Tell him to belt up or you'll get yourself a toy boy...or two.

carmenelectra Fri 16-Nov-12 12:58:41

I do believe men prefer younger women to middle aged. Well, middle aged men do, I'm convinced. Just from observing men in social situations anD men I know.

However, I'm sure women also prefer 25 year old men to 55 year olds. I do, I admit it.

The differenece is I think more men would actually act on it given the chance. I wouldn't have. Sex or a relationship with a much younger man I don't think, and I mean much younger not like ten yrs. I'd feel a bit silly and embarrassed. I think a lot a middle aged men have no shame and would happily shag a 20 year old with no embarrassment at all.

B1ueberryMuff1n Fri 16-Nov-12 13:55:28

There are a lot of men like this.

It would turn me off to be honest. I would find it a little pathetic, and a bit inappropriate, and most importantly in a relationship disrespectful and insensitive of him to be drooling over women half his age. I wouldnt' feel attracted to him as a person. Obviously women's attraction tends to be a lot more 'hollistic' so .............

ReallyTired Fri 16-Nov-12 14:41:39

Plenty of young guys fancy older women though

Are they looking for a mummy type figure rather than sex?

joblot Fri 16-Nov-12 14:47:55

So all people have sex to have babies? I think not. I'm highly sceptical of the evolutionary arguments.

Youth is highly prized in our culture. And oh god I could go on but I'd be wasting my precious middle age

whistlestopcafe Fri 16-Nov-12 14:54:58

I don't notice younger men at all now. One thing I have noticed as I've got older is that looks don't really register on my radar at all, I'm attracted to personality more now than I ever was.

When we were in our 20s I would notice dh take a sneaky glance at an attractive young woman but these days he doesn't appear to pay much attention to them so perhaps he feels the same way.

Dh mentioned that a colleague was being a lech towards a 21 year old woman at work and dh found it very distasteful, he said he couldn't get past the fact that they were old enough to be her father.

izzyizin Fri 16-Nov-12 14:55:25

Would I be wasting my precious middle age if I were to highly prize a prime specimen youth for cultural pursuits tonight, joblot? confused

AnnaFurLact1c Fri 16-Nov-12 14:57:53

Oh just tell him that you'll trade him in for two 25 year olds.

And mean it.

B1ueberryMuff1n Fri 16-Nov-12 15:03:44

I agree with AnnaFur. I wouldn't waste my middle age on a man who didn't appreciate me. I guess when you've left one eejit you just aren't willing to put up with shit any more.

domesticgodless Fri 16-Nov-12 15:09:17

hmm... I am seeing a lot of middle aged men who seem to actively prefer women their own age. Makes sense, because when you look for a partner, you are not just looking for a shag. It's a companion most people want, including men, and attractiveness is not just about the immediate look.

I've seen many a pretty boy whose beauty is destroyed the minute they open their mouth....

PixieHot Fri 16-Nov-12 15:11:37

grin at Hully, I was going to say that!

Mayisout Fri 16-Nov-12 15:19:36

I think there is a case where older women, probably older than 50, are seen as invisible.

But probably older men are invisible too unless they look attractive, fit, distinguished or powerful.

I would say that a young good looking man gets oggled every bit as much as a young good looking woman. Especially nowadays when young men are likely to work out regularly, some are just gorgeous.

domesticgodless Fri 16-Nov-12 15:22:09

I am just not seeing these gorgeous young things around! (I work in a university...) they all just look like oiks to me. But then I like the posh boy Cumberbatch type and that is not the current style :S

honestly though give me someone with maturity. When last single for some reason I was only attracting blokes younger than me (my own immaturity perhaps!!) and they were all totally shit in bed. TOTALLY. It's the porn generation, they are all desensualised.

Mayisout Fri 16-Nov-12 15:30:31

Oh, well I'm late 50s so 'young' covers quite a broad range!

Yokel Fri 16-Nov-12 15:34:14

I am lucky in that my taste in men has exactly kept pace with my age. When I was young, I liked 'em young. Now I'm old middle aged I like 'em middle aged. I'm with domesticgodless - young men these days look and behave like vile spotty oiks. [catsbumface]

Yokel Fri 16-Nov-12 15:35:31

Oh and beards! I loathed beards as a young woman. But then I grew up, I matured, I discovered that beards are actually as sexy as fuck.

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