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My perfect DH has just

(59 Posts)
wavesandsneezes Fri 16-Nov-12 00:50:33

Totally freaked me out. Started necking bottles of wine and saying that he had disappeared and the whispering voices wanted him to drink more. I grabbed the bottles I could find and he tried to wrestle them off me. Finally he took himself to bed and I came to check on him. He said he was going to be sick so I grabbed the nearest thing which was the cats litter tray. All cleaned up now, but I am so very sad. I feel like I have just seen him become every man i was so pleased to escape, and that my perfect DH has a monster inside him.

SirBoobAlot Fri 16-Nov-12 00:53:30

Why did you wrestle with him, and not call for an ambulance? If he says he thinks has disappeared and is hearing voices, he needs medical help.

SirBoobAlot Fri 16-Nov-12 00:54:18

Sorry that sounds more aggressive than I meant it to. But please, get him some medical help in the morning.

wavesandsneezes Fri 16-Nov-12 00:58:41

No, I appreciate what you are saying. He was trying to grab the wine and I knew i had to get it away from him. He's just been sick again. This is so unexpected and I feel so scared and worried for him.

SirBoobAlot Fri 16-Nov-12 01:00:55

Is he still saying anything about voices etc?

wavesandsneezes Fri 16-Nov-12 01:04:12

He just keeps saying "I'm a mess"'and "why did dave do this"'and dave isn't his name. We have children sleeping upstairs. I don't know what to do

MakeItALarge Fri 16-Nov-12 01:05:06

Was he already very drunk when he started saying that?

If hes got hammered and talked rubbish then he has just make a bit of a fool of himself. If hes drinking because of the voices I think you have a problem sad.

Thelifeofpie Fri 16-Nov-12 01:06:02

I am a mental health professional and I agree that he needs to be seen by someone asap. A+E with have an RMN there that will do an assessment of him tonight.

wavesandsneezes Fri 16-Nov-12 01:11:19

He wasn't so drunk at all when he started saying that. Am so scared for him but think i should call an ambulance really. I can't take him as the Dcs are in bed. Can drink alone do this????

StuntGirl Fri 16-Nov-12 01:13:23

You need to call an ambulance hun. His behaviour isn't normal and he needs checking out. Please help him (and you) and get a professional to check him out.

Heartstart Fri 16-Nov-12 01:13:53

Waves and you must call 999 now. If it is just drink a&e will be able to judge. If it is a serious mental health problem he needs help and you and your children need to be safe

Thelifeofpie Fri 16-Nov-12 01:15:19

Call the ambulance and get him assessed. Its significant enough to check.

Thelifeofpie Fri 16-Nov-12 01:16:24

You need to ensure they know the facts if you are unable to go with him.

NatashaBee Fri 16-Nov-12 01:16:54

I would call 999 - you need to make sure your children are safe.

MakeItALarge Fri 16-Nov-12 01:18:10

I have seen people talk absolute crap when drunk, become upset to the point of threatening self harm with no prior history of mh problems, but only after huge amounts.

Does he have any history of this type of thing, or any indication of mental health issues?

Hope youre ok, this must be horrible for you

izzyizin Fri 16-Nov-12 01:19:26

What was he doing before he started necking the vino? Was he out earlier, maybe at the pub? Are you able to establish how much he's drunk today/tonight?

Yes this sounds serious. Is there someone who can come over? Don't be frightened of calling someone.

wavesandsneezes Fri 16-Nov-12 01:23:08

No recorded history as far as I know, but I understand he had issues when his dad died and that drink has been a bit of a coping strategy intermittently since then, but not since we have been together. The voices thing has scared me and called the out of hours doctor who is phoning me back. He's asleep in bed with the cat litter tray to catch his vomit right now with me sat next to him. Its really scary and like i am sat next to a stranger.

wavesandsneezes Fri 16-Nov-12 01:26:39

And he hasn't been at the pub afaik. So, seems henhas drunk 3 bottles of wine given the evidence downstairs. He was calling me a cunt which DH would never do. And saying that he had become dave. Waiting for the doctor to call. Tried calling his sister but she must be asleep by now as no answer.

I'd let him sleep then. But get him to see someone in the morning. This is a horrible scary time (know it well). Protect you and the kids, don't try to rationalise with him and get professional help. You'll be okay, just be firm x

MakeItALarge Fri 16-Nov-12 01:28:33

I think he just sounds pissed. Completely out of his skull twatted. I think he'll wake up in the morning, be very very ill, have a raging hangover that wont clear till saturday and no memory of what he has said and done.

But I am not a mental health expert.

Thelifeofpie Fri 16-Nov-12 01:29:31

Do you know why he was drinking so much? Was this a one off or does he binge drink a lot? Also, has he had access to any drugs?

recall Fri 16-Nov-12 01:30:56

you ok wave?

wavesandsneezes Fri 16-Nov-12 01:33:57

I'm shaking a bit to be honest. This evening I haven't been with my DH but a rather terrifying stranger. No he doesn't binge since we've been together but I understand he has form. The voices thing and him saying he'd disappeared has really unsettled me.

StuntGirl Fri 16-Nov-12 01:34:53

How are you feeling wave? Try not to worry I'm sure everything will be ok.

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