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Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 18:45:54

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! grin

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 21:39:41

yoga in your position, I would reply simply with 'No'. Don't elaborate, don't explain.

Anything more and you give him too much power. He will thrive on knowing the effect he has on you by behaving as he does, therefore engage with him as little as possible.

Snape sorry. But he's still a fool. Albeit one with some manners.

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 21:40:31

Mac how was it?? Spill!

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 21:42:19

Slightly fucked off to be honest. From the point of view that no one I have ever liked has ever liked me. Didn't fancy DCs dad when we met, had ONS that got a bit...complicated (...) i grew to love him, but anyone I have ever thought 'oh! Wow!' at has never reciprocated that 'wow', which sucks a bit.

Good to know re Sirius before owt actually happened, but it sucks. It sucks to have that tiny wee new flame extinguished. Again. Hey ho. All will be well etc. at least I didn't hope too much.

smoothieooo Sun 11-Nov-12 21:44:12

Yoga it's concise, dignified, to the point and reasonable. Although given his previous form, it might be too much to ask for a satisfactory response.

lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 21:44:47

Oh cross posted with loads!

Snape, ah well. Sounds like a nice day out was had though <hug or manly arm punch depending what you fancy>

Yoga, still think another thread would be a good idea - but I agree with the others saying don't engage on that kind of level with him, but I think a simple no will be interpreted as you being difficult

I would say "No, because going on your past form, I do not trust you to behave rationally and respectfully towards me for any length of time"

Then he knows it's him, but you haven't got emotional about it.

lubeybooby Sun 11-Nov-12 21:46:11

Argh, cross posted again.

Snape - a definite hug!

Scattylatte Sun 11-Nov-12 21:46:39

Hello MLM. So pleased you are ok.

Snape. I won't hear from my walking date. Not bothered. But part of me things, hang on how could you not like me. But that's my ego.

Mac and cheese. Spill

Sponge any LC developments?

Scattylatte Sun 11-Nov-12 21:47:54

It sucks Snape. Definitely.

MyLittleMiracles Sun 11-Nov-12 21:50:41

We are all gorgeous amazing intelligent women granted in my case none of those are true so any one who doesnt want a second date is obviously a stupid arse incompatible

MacAndCheese Sun 11-Nov-12 21:51:07

Well, we had a few drinks. Was a bit hmm as he was late but that's because I'm always early

He's nice. Not particularly chatty, but nice enough company - we have a few things in common. and he's bloody gorgeous

He just texted me to say it was nice chatting to me and that he hoped I enjoyed it. confused

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 21:51:46

Snape - yes, a bit crap. But, at least you heard back and know where you stand. And you didn't seem that keen on him immediately afterwards - or it didn't come across that way. Onwards and upwards, eh?

Mac - I second Latte. Spill.

MacAndCheese Sun 11-Nov-12 21:51:53

Oh Snape. Most definitely his loss. (Hug)

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 21:51:55

Meh. Deleted his number. Not quite sure why he felt the need to check my ok profile twice after saying goodbye (what, just to make sure there was no spark...?) but <shrugs> i'm clearly used to rejection. Honestly no biggie. :-)

snapespeare Sun 11-Nov-12 21:52:35

MLM!!! Hello! smile

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 21:53:59

Ah. You spilled. Want to do a second date with him? Sounds like he wants one.

MLM - I'll grant you I'm gorgeous amazing and intelligent (and I'm blushing here) but I call you on your last point. And your strikethroughs

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 21:55:35

Mac could be wrong but you don't sound overly enthused?

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 21:55:55

I like Lubeys suggestion smile

Snape sad about today but I'm not sure I've ever had the 'wow' moment really, maybe I did with the lovely Ex, but not other than that. My general thoughts about men who've liked me in the past have been 'he'll do' blush Not exactly the stuff dreams are made of...

I did once meet someone who literally made me weak at the knees the first time I saw him, but to say he was uninterested in me despite me spending hours on the phone with him and giving him a tonne of free legal advice would be an understatement.

Scatty I always do the 'how could you not like me' thing too. I just tell myself there are a lot of very stupid men out there smile

MLM good to see you back. Hope all is well with you!

MacAndCheese Sun 11-Nov-12 21:57:07

No don't get me wrong, I'd like to see him again. But I couldn't read him, it was most perturbing for me. I'm used to being able to read people to a certain extent.

MacAndCheese Sun 11-Nov-12 21:58:40

Do you think bantam? I mean he could just be downplaying it, he did find me funny what can I say, I'm hilarious after a few drinks but I'm the body language person.

hatesponge Sun 11-Nov-12 22:00:33

Mac I hate not being able to read people. Happened to me with TheBarbour. Couldn't tell at all if he was interested during the date, or really from his texts after, not even when he asked to see me again (not that I ever did)

when a few weeks later he sent me a pic of his bath followed by a cock shot it became more clear where his interest lay hmm.

MacAndCheese Sun 11-Nov-12 22:04:03

Sounds like such a catch sponge hmm

I mean I think he's interested, but you never can tell.

Yogagirl17 Sun 11-Nov-12 22:04:38

Mac hmm, don't know what to make of that.

Snape sorry that really is sad. I'm half expecting something similar tomorrow (is this a good time for the wet fish?)

And sorry for attempted thread hijack. Thanks for replies. Am going to go with a much more abbreviated response along the lines of what lubey said.

mercury7 Sun 11-Nov-12 22:08:01

MLM!!smile

bantamrooster Sun 11-Nov-12 22:08:19

Mac - him saying 'hope you enjoyed it' is ambiguous, but it could mean he's not going to put himself out there and be vulnerable, say he loved it and ask for a second date only to get shot down - instead he's saying 'I enjoyed myself, please tell me you did too, then maybe I'll feel confident enough to ask you out again - or ideally you'll suggest it'

So, you have a few choices - what do you want - a second date with him but not risk getting turned down by asking him for one?

MacAndCheese Sun 11-Nov-12 22:20:43

Bantam - if he didn't like me, do you think he'd text me 10 minutes after I left? confused

I need to think. I think I'm so used to men being overtly interested that I'm not sure how to handle someone who comes across as neutral anymore. That's the thing with OD - if you're in contact with someone, you know beforehand if they're interested. <huge generalisation there, but I hope my point is somewhat understandable.

He was a bit so so when it came to actually planning something as well, so this isn't entirely out of character.

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