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Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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lubeybooby · 11/11/2012 18:45

New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

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MirandaWest · 11/11/2012 18:48

Hello :)

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lubeybooby · 11/11/2012 18:49

Hello Miranda :o

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snapespeare · 11/11/2012 18:50

bant just text her, honestly. None of this 2nd/3rd day game playing bollocks. If you want to see her again, just sort it out.

Toying with a text for Sirius Minchin. He looked at my OKC profile an hour ago... He's been on and off of it this afternoon, maybe he just needs a poke push.

What does one say in these circumstances?

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MirandaWest · 11/11/2012 18:51

I am down south this week staying at my mum and dads house as I am working in London next week. Am currently procrastinating and not preparing the exam paper I am marking tomorrow Hmm.

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snapespeare · 11/11/2012 18:55

Oh. Doesn't show up in my OKC searches anymore. Guess that's a 'no' then.

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lulubellaboozle · 11/11/2012 18:55

Bant I'm of the 'do it now' school of thought, agree with Snape forget the game playing bollocks if you like someone.

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bantamrooster · 11/11/2012 19:02

Oh it's not about game playing, my worry was: if you've had a nice date with someone and they text you ten minutes afterwards, can it put you off for over-keenness or is it sweet?

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Heleninahandcart · 11/11/2012 19:06

Bantamif like them, it's sweet. Go for it.

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lubeybooby · 11/11/2012 19:06

I find it sweet bant, and my minimum expectation is a text or mail the same evening/night to say they had a good time and check I got home ok, or anything along those lines...

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hatesponge · 11/11/2012 19:07

I think it depends what the text says.

If its OMG I think you're the 'one' I must see you again immediately

I would be running for the hills.

However if it says something like 'thanks for today was lovely to meet you - can I see you again soon

That's absolutely fine. And there's no way that should frighten anyone off :)

(Good to hear all went well btw!)

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snapespeare · 11/11/2012 19:07

It hasn't been ten minutes though has it?!

I think this evening is fine. I'm never put off by journey home messages, 'it was lovely to meet you, you're a star! Lets definately do it again sometime soon?' Either gets the response, 'you're equally awesome! Lets do it!' Or 'oh. That's sweet. No spark, sorry. Be happy. Etc'. Then everyone knows whatis going on and everyone can move forwards eithe separately or as a team.

And I'm sorry, I know it's bollocks, but the bloke does this. You need to instigate this I'm afraid. That's not to say that women can't ask blokes on dates (she clearly did!) but you have to step up now. It's your turn.

Do it!

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hatesponge · 11/11/2012 19:09

Yes, just text her already!

and report back what she says

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Movingforward123 · 11/11/2012 19:12

bant I would also say text her. its always nice to get a text the same day saying, I had a nice time etc Smile

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KirstyWirsty · 11/11/2012 19:14

Bant have you texted yet!! You know it's right :)

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wolfandi · 11/11/2012 19:18

Sooo...I poked/flirted/whatever it is that you do to contact men in a cowardly way on POF this afternoon several times. I've decided that if I only prod the men without photos then they aren't real and therefore are safe to contact. As non-real people must be safe. Obviously. Regretting asking me to stay now folks?! My profile is hidden so it's just a way to allow them to view me and decide whether to say hi.

Today has not been the best. I've got some strange longstanding problem with my hip. It seized up in M&S this afternoon and made me fall over at the front of a long queue of people. And then I promptly burst into tears with the shock and embarrassment. That really helped with the embarrassment factor..! Doh. A large dominos pizza on the way home fixed everything though. I do love calories. So much. Not sure I have room in my life for sharing my calories with anyone.

I totally agree with Snape, Bantam - don't do the playing it cool crap. Just thank her for a lovely time sooner rather than later. And Snape - give him a poke and a push. Surely none of us can go wrong with sending pleasant texts in a non harrassing and friendly way unless thats why I'm very single?!

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wolfandi · 11/11/2012 19:20

Bollocks. By the time I'd finished writing that - the entire gang had posted. Please ignore all out of date comments on my post. Will book speed typing lessons pronto!

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Yogagirl17 · 11/11/2012 19:21

Yep, what they ^^ all said. Text her to say you had a nice time. I would be wanting that. (See all the girls agree so now you have to)

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mercury7 · 11/11/2012 19:23

I'm also in favour of the 'journey home' message, it doesnt have to turn into text ping pong!

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snapespeare · 11/11/2012 19:23

Bant bant bant bant bant bant bant bant !!!

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OhWesternWind · 11/11/2012 19:31

Wolf loads of sympathy about the m&s incident. I have dodgy balance and have been known to do similar. Why do we get so embarrassed about falling over?

Guys without photos - hmm. I always wonder why there's no photo and think it's because a) they're married/in ltr b) they're scary looking or c) both of the above. Think I'd prefer to know who I'm winking at, but it passes an hour or so quite nicely Smile

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BreakOutTheKaraoke · 11/11/2012 19:32

Hello again all. I post every five threads or so to say I'm joining in, then the thread moves so fast I can't catch up! But I keep reading to find out what's going on - I'm rather nosy like that!

Bantam -definitely send an 'I had a lovely time text'- Snape is right, has to be the bloke instigating, I'm afraid, and if you don't get one you assume there was nothing there for them, time to move on.

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bantamrooster · 11/11/2012 19:32

Okay okay okay. I'm not even home yet and text sent.. You're bullies, the lot of you.

But thanks :)

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snapespeare · 11/11/2012 19:41

Hoorah!

Can't contact Sirius minchin. Surely with all the above, he has to contact me. Unsure whether he has blocked me on OKC or not (surely I'm not that hideous...). He comes up in a user name search, but not in a match.

I refuse to waste time thinking about it.

Wine

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SweetSeraphim · 11/11/2012 19:42

I have a good feeling about you and Surrey girl, Bantam. There is an air of inevitability about it, in a good way.

Snape, I don't understand, what happened with Sirius?

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SweetSeraphim · 11/11/2012 19:43

Oh, x post.

WTF? Weirdo. Him, not you!

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