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How does you partner make your life better?

(70 Posts)
Bubblenut Sat 10-Nov-12 15:35:16

Partner/ husband/ wife - how do they make your life better than before you were with them?

Examples please if possible!

Twattergy Fri 30-Nov-12 10:39:18

He does the bins and all the clothes washing/hanging out. Actually enjoys changing nappies. supports me in working almost full time. Puts up with my wacky family. Is 100% reliable and has never let me down in 7 years. Respects my independence. is basically a real man.

chickensarmpit Wed 05-Dec-12 21:08:05

My boyfriend makes my life harder, not better.
Such lovely stories on here though.

OhEmGee25 Wed 05-Dec-12 21:17:04

Because he's my best friend who took on dd and I as a pair and tells us both everyday how much he loves us. Because he supports and encourages me in everything I do. Because he tells me I look beautiful even when I know I look crap. Because he works hard so we can live in a nice house and have treats. Because he's gorgeous grin

homeofhelp Thu 06-Dec-12 10:51:16

I love that my partner loves my daughter. My partner encourages me to follow my dreams he tells me i can do anything. He helps with house work and decorating and D.I.Y. i can do it but its nice not having too. I feel valued and wanted. He listens to me values my oppions. He helped me out when my daughters dad only wanted to see my daughter when i was there but he stressed me out by telling me he wont hurt me again still loves me ect. I went to hospital with stress because it gave me servire chest pains. I was bed ridden for 6 days my partner looked after me and my daughter.my partner comes to all hospital appontments for my daughter. He does everything he can to provide for us. I have met his family they treat my daughter really well. They class us as family. My partner is just amazing he is a saint. My hero. He brings joy into our lives. But i still have my indepents. He makes me and my daughter laugh.

homeofhelp Thu 06-Dec-12 11:09:00

My partner also tells me he loves me all the time. He says my daughter and i are his world. We have simlar views and morals. He never puts me down. He makes me my coffee in the morning.

FloralWellies Sat 08-Dec-12 23:13:24

I didn't realise that DH's / DP's could be so nice....

My parent's marriage wasn't great and I have no idea what a good relationship looks like.

I don't feel loved or appreciated by DP.
He is great at fixing anything, and is building us a dream home, but it's not enough when I don't feel like I matter to him at much, (lower priority than his Mum, his D(S)C's and he never says he loves me.

Says I should never have been a mother (we have a 2 year old DS who I do 98% of the childcare for) and when I ask him to help, he is usually crap

Says his DCs don't like to visit because of me (We live in France, he left his ex-wife and kids to live here, years before he met me). He always provokes arguments before & while they visit and causes a strained atmosphere and is a total Disney Dad.

Is charming and flirty with other people; this evening a female friend said "bye gorgeous" to him, he replied "bye honey" to her. (No endearments for me)

I pay for everything (He is working building this house full-time, I fund the work, and help out where i can; DS permitting. (Although we bought the land & shell 50/50) However he won't sign an agreement where if anything happens to him so DS & I can stay on in the house without selling or paying off his kids - (French inheritance law), although his kids would inherit another house from their mum and another property he owns here...

I was single for years before I met him and had to do everything on my own, so bizarrely this feels like a step up.

I don't i will meet anyone better; the alternative would be being a single mum to DS so I try and appreciate the good stuff in my life DS (the love of my life) and the lovely place we live and slowly shut down the other bits which used to be "me".

(Sorry to list the complete opposite of this thread, but never really articulated all of this before)

CuriosityKilledTheCrapTree Sun 09-Dec-12 00:02:14

This thread is such an eye opener.

BertieBotts Sun 09-Dec-12 00:04:48

Sorry to hear that Floral sad Why don't you think you would meet anyone better?

CuriosityKilledTheCrapTree Sun 09-Dec-12 00:19:37

And also is potentially being alone really the less of 2 evils?

RubyrooUK Sun 09-Dec-12 00:47:16

My DH is the only person who sees my rage (I am very controlled otherwise) because I feel his love for me is without conditions so I can be as awful as I need to be, and he'll still love me.

He is a brilliant dad who adores his son.

He tells me I'm gorgeous all the time.

When someone told me yesterday that I was gorgeous and must have an insecure husband, DH beamed and said "see, it's only you who don't realise how attractive you are!" in a pleased way.

He changes the majority of nappies when we are both home as he knows that the bowels of our son are a direct inheritance from him. grin

He packs the dishwasher every night because I'm too lazy. And never complains.

We can have really good debates and talks about things. I respect his opinions as in general he is very conscious of others and kind.

He has a massive cock. smile

Obviously he is human, so also deeply annoying in a lot of ways, but I do feel very loved and hope the feeling is mutual.

FloralWellies Sun 09-Dec-12 02:01:40

Well I spent a decade alone before I met DP (I did have boyfriends, but nothing major, could easily go 2 years before a short "fling"). People used to fancy me but no-one stuck around.

I feel like I have lost all my old friends since I moved away. I did used to be madly in love with DP and he did do all those nice things, for a matter of months reeled me in I don't confide in him anymore as he would just use things against me later in an argument.

FloralWellies Sun 09-Dec-12 02:03:38

Where were all these lovely men when i was young?

Mine is wonderful too. Been together 20years and we laugh like drains all day every day. We have an extremely traditional relationship, I am a SAHM so our roles are clearly defined but he always got involved with the kids when they were little.

He is kind, considerate, caring, hilariously funny, works very hard, tells me he loves me, encourages me to have girly time and always supports me on whatever argument happens to be going on with our teenagers.

Hydrophilic Sun 09-Dec-12 17:44:42

I don't think my partner makes my life better at all, in fact he makes it worse. I don't have any of the feelings that others say about their DP. I dread DP coming home and have taken every hour possible of overtime at work to avoid him.

Because of him I now live in a shit area, with no friends or family nearby and earn less in a week than I used to a day.

HettySunshine Sun 09-Dec-12 22:03:11

My DP makes my day better from the minute I wake up (to a cup of tea in bed). He lets me suck his nose - I know it's weird but I love it! He is as excited about TTC out first dc as I am and tells me all the time what a wonderful mother I'll be. He will be an amazing dad.

He is genuinely the kindest, gentlest man I have ever met. It would never occur to him that housework is purely my job (which is just as well as we would be living in a pigsty if I had to do it all myself!).

He pretends not to like strictly but always finds something he needs to do on the laptop in the lounge while it's on and knows all the professional dancers' names.

He's the one.

VitoCorleone Sun 09-Dec-12 22:19:02

I can be totally myself in front of him, and he loves me unconditionally no matter what i say or do. He accepts me for who i am

Also he's one of the funniest and kindest people ive ever met.

And he's gorgeous

Hetty! 'suck his nose' - please tell us more. i have visions of your mouth full of his bogeys.

HettySunshine Mon 10-Dec-12 10:43:59

Secondhandrose not bogey sucking! Just sucking the very tip of his nose. It's really nice. I know, I know! I'm a weirdo!

OhThisIsJustGrape Mon 10-Dec-12 11:13:07

He works very hard. He is a great dad. He puts the rubbish out.

That's it really.

He makes me feel incredibly lonely, even when he's at home. He always puts work first. He's only affectionate when he thinks he might get sex. He never does anything spontaneously, no gifts, shows of affection, even when he knows I'm feeling down he would never do anything to try and cheer me up. He doesn't do anything around the house. He doesn't do anything for himself so it's like having an extra child.

I told him yesterday after he let me down spectacularly that I want him to leave after Christmas. He hasn't spoken to me since.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Mon 10-Dec-12 11:21:51

Some very sad situations here sad

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