Sorry guys - long story ! Am tearing my hair out and just don't know what to do ! Advice gladly received !
Ok - best female friend - been close friends for 21 years - has been hard at times as have lived far apart for most of it - but up till now has been give and take - probably only meet up once a quarter - but on phone often. used to do shared holidays etc - but her dh bit of an arse and also he works away in week - so weekends have been a bit sacred and so hard to meet up in last 3 yrs or so.
About two years ago she decided that she wanted to separate from her dh - not wholly unexpected as he really wasn't a great choice - anyway at the time I was not working and my dd hadn't started school - so I whizzed down to her house and spent a week consoling/advising etc. After about 4 weeks she decided to give him second chance - I totally supported her in this and all was well.
She is now working full time again, like me, so it is hard to organise meetings - but to be honest she has prioritised others over me - at half term she wouldn't arange anything as her "friend" was meant to be coming - so she put me off and off until I had to make arrangements for childcare - and by the time she said "come" I couldn't as dd was in a playscheme that week. Tried to get her to book Easter visit - but again she couldn't amke plans - blaming circumstances again !
About 6 weeks ago she called to say that she was getting a divorce ! Again not entirely unexpected - but as I am now back at work and dd is in school I just could not go and see her. Not sure whether she has the hump about this - or something else but - long shot is that we have only been talking by text - I keep asking if she'll be in tonight and she says Yes - but then she doesn't pick up phone !
Icing on the cake is that I bought her a Take That ticket for her b'day - and she has just texted to say that she can't make it now due to "circumstances" !
Half of me says "sod her" but we were I thought soul mates and are godmothers to each others kids !
What do you all reckon ? Worth fighting for ?? If so how ? Or give up ?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Think my best friend is trying to drop me ? What to do ?
20 replies
Norah · 30/03/2006 20:21
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.