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Bf admitted to sleeping with his ex.

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HeartLess Sun 14-Oct-12 18:23:55

Bf of a year and a half told me last night that he slept with his ex on a business trip 6 months ago. She lives in another country and he has another business trip planned for the end of the month back to that country. I don't know what to do. I thought we had something very special. We had no problems at the time and are sex life is great. He said that it was just a one nightstand after drinking too much. I asked him why he told me and his answer was because it was nothing and that it ment nothing. I love him and don't know what to do. Today I told him that I hated him and that I never wanted to see him again. Im so upset and angry. He is asking what he can do to change this and I don't have an answer. I want him to be part of my future but an the othe hand I don't want to spend the whole time he is away worrying that he's in bed with this OW. I'm not very good at confrontational conversations and cry easily. Any advice welcome. What would you do..? I can't let him get away with it as an open relationship is fine for some people but not for me. I trusted him 100% am gutted..!

MyDonkeysAZombie Wed 17-Oct-12 14:12:31

Glad you had some good news yesterday and are feeling better. How lucky you saw him when you were looking great and bustling off somewhere. Like people have said, focus on you and what you want. It's up to him to make the running now and up to you what you decide to do.

mrsfuzzy Wed 17-Oct-12 14:15:37

you might well do but that is part of the process hon, you have done so well don't give up now, it's going to feel sad and loely for awhile but you are already starting to see daylight, you got your hair cut for a start that,s positive, keep yourrself busy, the work thing should help too, be sad, be angry don't bottle it up, but don't step backwards you may regret it, move on in your own time you need to heal, and remeber on mumsnet there are countless people to listen to your woes and celebrate the positives.

alarkaspree Wed 17-Oct-12 14:26:12

I was thinking the film was 'The Tall Guy'. Maybe Emma Thompson has used the line twice.

Really sorry for your situation Heartless.

HeartLess Wed 17-Oct-12 14:39:22

Mumsnet is fantastic. Many a time I've shared something funny with him from here or he has found me pissing myself at the pc and he says oh your on mumsnet again. Thinking that I may need my own confidential advice one day I've always said it's not mumsnet it's NETMUMS grin

HeartLess Wed 17-Oct-12 14:43:49

Thanks alark I will check out that movie.

A big thank you to all of you for helping me through the past few days.

I feel ten feet tall today and bulletproof with you all behind me.

Doha Wed 17-Oct-12 15:46:30

yep Heartless ren feet taller and 14 stone lighter.......

HeartLess Wed 17-Oct-12 15:51:39

Hahhaha grin maybe.

ATourchOfInsanity Wed 17-Oct-12 19:06:00

Go you! Bet he is wondering whether it is too soon to call/msg you!
Well done! Plus good inspiration to keep looking tip top wink

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