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mumsnet widower poison

(135 Posts)
jm8997 Thu 11-Oct-12 00:19:42

I have no one else to talk to about my feelings. My wife has family and friends, but she also appears to spend a lot of time on mumsnet. I feel suicidal, lonely and always blamed for the bad things that happen in life. Some of the threads on this website are so intensely vitriolic and polarised that I believe my wife is being destroyed from the beautiful kind loving person I married. Her addiction to mumsnet is really scaring me, yet I fear I cannot raise it with her as she would get angry with me. Help?

ScreamingNaanAndGoryOn Thu 11-Oct-12 12:59:31

JM - for someone who claims not to be very articulate, you have a very flowery way of writing prose.

If there are problems with your relationship, then there are problems with your relationship and blaming a website isn't going to help you or your wife. Have you considered that maybe she escapes onto the web as she's disatisfied with your relationship too?

You need to talk to your wife and work on your relationship not come on line and make seemingly grandiose threats to commit suicide.

Oh, and a word to the wise - maybe you want to make your twitter feed match up with what you are posting here eh?

Offred Thu 11-Oct-12 13:07:08

Or just protect your tweets from the public eh? So still reading then...

Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo Thu 11-Oct-12 13:10:01

Plainly there's more to this than meets the eye!

Op - I spend plenty of time on mumsnet but also have a functioning relationship. There are lots of posters like that. If you feel mumsnet is the problem, sorry but you're wrong.

Twitter, eh? hmm

BigBroomstickBIWI Thu 11-Oct-12 13:13:01

Twitter a/c is now locked ...

ScreamingNaanAndGoryOn Thu 11-Oct-12 13:15:04

Samaritans - 08457 90 90 90.

They are much better for giving help than anonymous posters.

GobTheGoblin Thu 11-Oct-12 13:15:59

Ha ha he's just made his tweets private. Knob.

izzyizin Thu 11-Oct-12 13:19:04

Deleted? Moi? For stating the bleeding obvious? Jeez, to the best of my knowledge I wasn't harsh or rude or insulting as my earlier response, if it's still extant,, will testify.

BigBroomstickBIWI Thu 11-Oct-12 13:20:28

Hmm hmm I wonder who reported that, izzy?

izzyizin Thu 11-Oct-12 13:35:22

It seems to me we can safely assume that the OP has elected to live to report another day, Broom hmm

bitbewildered Thu 11-Oct-12 13:37:37

I went to bed last night very grateful that my DH is not the OP who seemed determined to ignore everyone's offered help, and only to attack, mainly, Littleblue. If he's your DH run far away!

izzyizin Thu 11-Oct-12 13:38:08

A site where twits can go private? It figures...

GobTheGoblin Thu 11-Oct-12 13:38:25

He must think we're all 'suckers'. wink

BigBroomstickBIWI Thu 11-Oct-12 13:51:19

Out of interest, did his tweets give any indication that he is genuine, or here as part of an invasion?

There are a couple of very odd posters at the moment that are making me wonder if F4J walk amongst us again...

Littleblue Thu 11-Oct-12 14:00:00

I was completely impervious , despite being told I was behaving badly , I felt justified in taking the piss out of what was obviously a Troll....I had a couple of private messages asking if I was ok after being the main target of his abuse which was lovely... this man got alot of genuine support from all the kindness and compassion readily available from the mumsnet community..., and his stupidity in exposing his actual identity by using the same name as his twitter proves my point regarding his manipulative and trolling behaviour... I hate to sound smug but rests her case smile

MouMouCow Thu 11-Oct-12 14:00:29

I feel sorry for the poor chap.
As for obsessed MNters, a few spring to mind ( I don't undertsand how they can have a life outside and manage to look after child and husband with the amount of time spent on this site) and the comments made about other DHs are sometimes quite harsh and prejudiced.

No insults please, disagreeing with you lot is no justification for getting abused....

is 'you lot' everyone on mn except you?

just trying to work out who you're addressing.

bitbewildered Thu 11-Oct-12 14:03:46

My DH doesn't need to be looked after. hmm

ScreamingNaanAndGoryOn Thu 11-Oct-12 14:06:09

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

I personally think that using a NN that his wife will recognise on a site he knows she uses to post about how awful she is and to threaten suicide, could be considered as manipulative and possibly even "not in the spirit of mumsnet".

LineRunner Thu 11-Oct-12 14:06:26

'manage to look after ... husband' grin

I think the purpose of the thread was to goad someone on here to suggest something horrible to a supposedly suicidal man, so that this could be used to attack and denigrate MN as a whole.

edam Thu 11-Oct-12 14:07:27

I think you've got it the wrong way round moumou - read the post immediately before yours.

AnEerieAirOfHorror Thu 11-Oct-12 14:08:46

Maybe womeb can do two things at one i think its called mulititasking lol

GobTheGoblin Thu 11-Oct-12 14:10:02

Mou you do realise the op is a troll?

Lueji Thu 11-Oct-12 14:13:20

The OP sounded like my ex when I left. hmm

He didn't kill himself.

BrainSurgeon Thu 11-Oct-12 14:22:05

Fascinating!

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