Hello,
I am 16 weeks pg with a 3 year old DD. Been with DH for 11 years and married for 4.
In the past DH has used the internet to look at porn and it had killed our relationship. He lies and there is no trust. I guess I stayed because in every other way he was the model partner. Anyone who knows us would be so shocked by this and this is why I have no one to talk to. I feel so humiliated.
A few months ago we began couselling and things seemed better. However over the last couple of weeks he has been acting strangely with phone permanatly attached to him and 'jumping' if I walked into a room and he was texting. I asked a couple of times what was going on and he said nothing just text friend etc.
Well I brough it up again last night and the upshot is he tried everything possible to not let me see the phone but in the end he knew that obviously by not letting me see it meant that I would know there was something on there he didn't want me to see.
So he gave me the phone and there were hundreds of messages between him and a woman he met online. The most hurtful part is that they weren't just sexual but also just lots of messages about how her day was etc.
Where do I go from here? I know it is over between us but it breaks my heart that my daughter wont have her daddy anymore. The guilt I feel is so painful. I know that it shouldn't be my guilt.
Also I am terrified of how to cope. To be single and pregnant with DD. How will we be able to afford to live in our home still? How will I cope with birth and recovery alone (am prob having elec c-section)?
He has taken everything from us. How could he choose that over his wife and children and the beautiful family we could have had?
I would appreciate any advice or support. I've been awake most of the night crying. I just feel like I can't go on. Every option seems so hard.
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DH texting woman he met online plesae help
Quin · 09/10/2012 05:23
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