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How many exes are on your FB?

(59 Posts)
Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 01:25:32

Trying to work out what is normal.

I have one, who I went out with for 3 months when I was 15! It was more a brief (and very chaste) interlude in a very long friendship.

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 18:58:11

No - I get that. It freaked me out a bit that I felt nothing. He is living where we planned to live. We had chosen baby names and all - oh young love! But his hair is all funny now, and he has definitely worked on losing his accent. Of course "corporate" him is no indication - but he did come across as a boring knob. grin

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:49:47

Sorry that was a bit crude !!

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:49:14

Similar story here Portofino. ~Was devastated when x dumped me in the run up to the millenium 1999. I didn't google on this occasion but just after the riots he was on bbc news one morning talking about race relations or something. :-0 But I felt nothing looking at him. NOTHING. It was odd, looking at him spouting on, knowing how callously he'd wiped his lily white arse with me when he was finished with me!!

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 17:27:52

I did however once Google my first true love and turned up a video of him in his recent professional capacity. How I laughed! And wondered at the 19 yo me who could not eat nor sleep for months when he dumped me....

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 17:26:20

One I think. I think DH has a couple. I tend to only FB friend people who are actually my FRIENDS or family and have no interest in trawling the internet for past loves/shags.

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 17:15:57

NONE!

i GOT an fb request from one x but I ignored it cos he's just nosey and wants to see if i'm married, live in a big house, have kids. he deosn't want to spark up a chat or anything.

RubyrooUK Sat 06-Oct-12 17:10:57

I've got two serious exes and a fair few snog/shag/flings on FB. My husband has pretty much the same.

We're friends with them because we still like them (in the case of our serious exes) and still know them, their new partners and their kids. So nothing remotely dodgy.

In the cases of random snogs/shags, they normally happened because we were friends and the attraction bit wasn't really there or wore off quickly. So again, it's just a bunch of people DH and I think are nice.

I don't see it as weird or making us likely to cheat. We've met a lot of people along the way and didn't come to our relationship without having met other people first. We're both relaxed about that.

Tressy Sat 06-Oct-12 13:12:31

7 iirc. I'm still single and they are all people I would have a drink with again if I bumped into them in RL. Hopefully, they think the same about me.

There is one guy who has recently moved back to the area and I might have had a crush on when I was a young teen (I started young). We are going out soon so I quite like facebook.

However I am aware, due to experience, that exes who ask you out again don't necessarily act any differently 20 or 30 years on grin. It would be nice to have a schoolgirl crush at my age, though, not sure I can handle it being unrequited. Fingers crossed that this isn't the case this time around.

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Sat 06-Oct-12 13:09:29

I also agree fb is not a terrible thing to have, I hate when people get judgey over it.
You'll only cheat/mess around if you want to. FB has nothing to do with it.

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Sat 06-Oct-12 13:08:06

I've got my first ever boyfriend on mine and that's it. To be fair we were 13-14 and kissed once, but we did do a lot of hand holding wink

I've had 1 other boyfriend after him but I don't want him on my fb even though he's sent quite a few requests.

halloweeneyqueeney Sat 06-Oct-12 13:06:12

none really, one snog from school but he's also a friend's brother
none on DHs either

not a trust thing, just have no interest in them really

KirstyWirsty Sat 06-Oct-12 13:04:18

No real ex's .. Two I snogged and two i shagged

Gay40 Sat 06-Oct-12 11:22:06

I disagree that FB is the spawn of the devil, though. I think you'll find that FB related fuckwittery was going on well before FB was around. If you are prone to utter nonsense, FB is just another method of indulging in it. Prior to that we had Friends Reunited, dating sites, bars, dances.....need I go on.

Bunbaker Sat 06-Oct-12 10:47:53

None. I never seek FB friendship. The only FB friends I have are people who have asked me. I never post on FB either. In fact I don't know why I opened a FB account in the first place as I don't really "get" it. I prefer to communicate with real friends and family in real life.

One. I tracked him down.

I then phoned him. Nice long chat. Made me remember just what used to irritate me about him!

My sis added him too. He was the big brother she never had apparently!

We now play song pop against each other.

Dillydollydaydream Sat 06-Oct-12 10:43:21

Just 2. One I went out with for 6 years. Another a dew weeks.

muttimalzwei Sat 06-Oct-12 10:34:50

I don't think it brings anything particularly positive to my life sometimes though. One of them started trying to chat to me inappropriately and another is just looking through my pictures a lot (his friends get recommended to me so I know this is a sign that he is having a look)
However, one I am friends with is still what I would consider a true friend and I am interested in keeping in touch with him even though I will probably never see him again. I suppose I am still a bit in love with him but in a 'that was a great part of my life' not in a 'I want him back' kind of a way.

RustyBear Sat 06-Oct-12 10:33:01

I don't actually have an ex. Have been with my first boyfriend for 38 years, married for 32.

Not sure where that puts me on the scale of FB normality...

muttimalzwei Sat 06-Oct-12 10:31:05

3 if you count drunken snogs

muttimalzwei Sat 06-Oct-12 10:30:36

2

TheKettle Sat 06-Oct-12 10:23:48

None. My choice. They're exes for a reason and I don't stay friends with them after the relationship is over. (I don't hate them either - just don't think there's any point being friends with someone who I used to shag and don't anymore).

OhEmGee24 Sat 06-Oct-12 09:19:05

4 but they were all just three month flings between the ages of 18-22.

Nagoo Sat 06-Oct-12 09:13:44

most of them, cause I don't have sex with dickheads, they were all nice people I would speak to and take an interest in.

Nothing worrying or wierdy.

LucieMay Sat 06-Oct-12 09:04:00

I'm friends with all of mine, a lot of whom are now married. They were flings from years ago.

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs Sat 06-Oct-12 08:58:47

I have 1 "ex" on my FB- I agreed to his friend request out of nosiness, but now feel like defriending him would be rude blush. I never speak to him, and I've hidden his posts as DH got upset about me "seeing everything he was up to". I would have de-friended him if I wasn't such a wuss

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