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How many exes are on your FB?

(59 Posts)
Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 01:25:32

Trying to work out what is normal.

I have one, who I went out with for 3 months when I was 15! It was more a brief (and very chaste) interlude in a very long friendship.

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Sat 06-Oct-12 13:09:29

I also agree fb is not a terrible thing to have, I hate when people get judgey over it.
You'll only cheat/mess around if you want to. FB has nothing to do with it.

Tressy Sat 06-Oct-12 13:12:31

7 iirc. I'm still single and they are all people I would have a drink with again if I bumped into them in RL. Hopefully, they think the same about me.

There is one guy who has recently moved back to the area and I might have had a crush on when I was a young teen (I started young). We are going out soon so I quite like facebook.

However I am aware, due to experience, that exes who ask you out again don't necessarily act any differently 20 or 30 years on grin. It would be nice to have a schoolgirl crush at my age, though, not sure I can handle it being unrequited. Fingers crossed that this isn't the case this time around.

RubyrooUK Sat 06-Oct-12 17:10:57

I've got two serious exes and a fair few snog/shag/flings on FB. My husband has pretty much the same.

We're friends with them because we still like them (in the case of our serious exes) and still know them, their new partners and their kids. So nothing remotely dodgy.

In the cases of random snogs/shags, they normally happened because we were friends and the attraction bit wasn't really there or wore off quickly. So again, it's just a bunch of people DH and I think are nice.

I don't see it as weird or making us likely to cheat. We've met a lot of people along the way and didn't come to our relationship without having met other people first. We're both relaxed about that.

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 17:15:57


i GOT an fb request from one x but I ignored it cos he's just nosey and wants to see if i'm married, live in a big house, have kids. he deosn't want to spark up a chat or anything.

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 17:26:20

One I think. I think DH has a couple. I tend to only FB friend people who are actually my FRIENDS or family and have no interest in trawling the internet for past loves/shags.

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 17:27:52

I did however once Google my first true love and turned up a video of him in his recent professional capacity. How I laughed! And wondered at the 19 yo me who could not eat nor sleep for months when he dumped me....

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:49:14

Similar story here Portofino. ~Was devastated when x dumped me in the run up to the millenium 1999. I didn't google on this occasion but just after the riots he was on bbc news one morning talking about race relations or something. :-0 But I felt nothing looking at him. NOTHING. It was odd, looking at him spouting on, knowing how callously he'd wiped his lily white arse with me when he was finished with me!!

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:49:47

Sorry that was a bit crude !!

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 18:58:11

No - I get that. It freaked me out a bit that I felt nothing. He is living where we planned to live. We had chosen baby names and all - oh young love! But his hair is all funny now, and he has definitely worked on losing his accent. Of course "corporate" him is no indication - but he did come across as a boring knob. grin

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