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Is my husband a twat?

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It is our 3yr wedding anniversary today. We both knew it was coming up but forgot it was today until I realised and text him when he was on his way home this evening.

It has been a crap day. He told me last night he thinks he and the kids have threadworms and totally freaked out. Since I got home from work I have de wormed the kids, vacuumed the whole house, changed all the bedding and done 3 loads of washing. The baby wouldn't sleep, cried for an hour. He got home at 9pm, special dinner on the table and iPlayer ready.

He brought a bottle of wine but no chocs as it would have "undone all my hardwork in the gym yesterday" and no flowers as "the ones in the co op weren't special enough" sad

He is a twat, yes?

dondon33 Fri 05-Oct-12 03:36:54

You can get tablets Not
I don't know if the eggs can actually live on handles (I did say I went into super-excessive-hygiene-overdrive lol) but just in case.

Good you've made up, enjoy your DC free time x

In the cold light of day, it appears I was a bit of a twat. No, I didn't buy him anything, but I spent about 4 hours coaxing worm powder into the DC and trying to eradicate worm eggs ( eaurgh ~ eggs on for handles, really?). We have made up and I've begged my mum to have the DC while we celebrate/commiserate. Thank you.

Opentooffers Thu 04-Oct-12 19:33:41

Yes he's a git, leave him !
lol, like to think you are just sounding off for a mo as this is small potato. Enjoy rest of life together. Good luck when things like this happen again, it's all part of family life and you'll laugh about it one day

itsallinmyhead Thu 04-Oct-12 18:02:00

Bless you. As to your question OP, it seems like there was quite a bit going on & your big day crept up on you both.

I reckon you might be frazzled & as a result, feel a little hurt by your husbands lack of sentiment.

I say regroup, find a sitter & get you both a night away to enjoy your anniversary.

P.s CONGRATS!

Lovingfreedom Thu 04-Oct-12 17:48:26

mmm....threadworms how romantic.... Last year one of my DCs contracted scabies which required treatment for the whole family. In one of my happier interludes of last year, exH and I found that coating each other head to toe in insecticide (as part of the treatment) was actually rather arousing (aside from the terrible smell) and ended up in a romantic tryst that almost saved the marriage. That's tmi I know...

dondon33 Thu 04-Oct-12 14:32:02

No not a twat, I get that he didn't want to bring home a shitty bunch of flowers for you but some choc's would of been nice regardless of your gym workout.

Have a belated anniversary at the weekend when you're both more relaxed.

Grrr thread worms -my youngest brought them home a few times when he was in nursery and to be honest it used to freak me out shock and send me into super, excessive hygiene overdrive. (disinfecting door knobs, hand rails etc because the eggs can live outside of the body for upto 2 weeks and re-infect everyone angry )

Make sure everyone is treated with the anti-worm stuff, including yourself. It's also a good idea, if you know which of DC got them first, to inform the Nursery/School so other parents can act - no good you treating your family if it's raging in the classroom- it'll very quickly come back to your home sad

I know it's probably a bit uncomfy but I used to cover my DS bum with sudacrem before bed, to try and stop the worms laying there nightly eggs and also to stop the itch making it less likely he would scratch himself.

WineOhWhy Thu 04-Oct-12 09:08:30

So what did you get him?

Anniegetyourgun Thu 04-Oct-12 09:01:34
izzyizin Thu 04-Oct-12 03:39:12

I second tall. Don't leave the bastard but leave www.janepackerdelivered.com (grey rose is to die for) and www.chocology.co.uk (Leonidas is died and gone to heaven) prominently displayed on post-its, laptops, computers, dashboard, and anywhere else it can't escape his attention grin

Stonefield Thu 04-Oct-12 03:22:41

What did you get him?

Agree that if you both forgot then he's not a twat, you should try and celebrate at the weekend.

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Thu 04-Oct-12 03:03:46

No I can't see anything twatish there at all, why are you so annoyed with him?

Don't leave the bastard wink

differentnameforthis Thu 04-Oct-12 00:05:31

No he isn't a twat! Just because he didn't buy you chocs & flowers!

Why must be denigrate the male species all the time!

100mph Wed 03-Oct-12 23:34:51

May he not also be a bit distracted by his own (suspected) threadworm symptoms? I don't know much about this - would you need to de-worm him too? (or is that a bit gross..?!) I hope you have a much better weekend - happy anniversary.

DappyHays Wed 03-Oct-12 23:30:04

DH and I got over the expectations by deciding not to celebrate our anniversary, apart from the big ones. Our first big one is next year.

I show our kids the video nasty wedding DVD on the actual day, just to give them a laugh. It is only 10 mins long before anyone is thinking of reporting me to SS grin

Concentrate on your Dh's good points. He doesn't sound like a twat to me.

Pancakeflipper Wed 03-Oct-12 23:00:41

Did you get him chocs?

Pancakeflipper Wed 03-Oct-12 23:00:23

NO he got wine. That would be a sainthood in our household.

Mumblepot26 Wed 03-Oct-12 22:59:05

YABU

Proudnscary Wed 03-Oct-12 22:42:41

No he's not a twat

He didn't want to buy you substandard flowers last minute or something that would make you feel fat & crap about yourself after eating.

He sounds great, in the nicest possible way, log off MN & go enjoy what's left of your anniversary!

Happy anniversary thanks <---better than Co-op ones.

rubyslippers Wed 03-Oct-12 22:29:08

Not a twat at all

You both forgot

The threadworms sounds horrid tho so you have my sympathies

OrangeLily Wed 03-Oct-12 22:28:35

Poor both of you!

Can you ask him nicely if you could re-do it this weekend? It doesn't sound like he was trying to be a twat. You both forgot confused

At least there was wine smile

RubyrooUK Wed 03-Oct-12 22:27:26

Make peace and plan something (more) special together. Yes, it's a rubbish anniversary but it sounds like you are both busy and consumed by the unsexy realities of life (mmm...worms).

Take five minutes tonight, plan something nice or at least almost nice and then divvy up the organisation so there's no resentment.

If he doesn't respond to your loving pitch, tell him the kids have taken all the worming tablets and he'll have to suffer alone. grin

perfectstorm Wed 03-Oct-12 22:25:40

DH and I only realised we'd forgotten our anniversary this year some weeks after the fact. I don't think it means anything.

Sorry you had a bad day. Get some sleep and hopefully things will feel more positive in the morning. And tell him to get you the bloody chocolates - that's what the gym is for!

You both forgot, and then rushed around to manage what you could.

Give him a break.

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