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Is my husband a twat?

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It is our 3yr wedding anniversary today. We both knew it was coming up but forgot it was today until I realised and text him when he was on his way home this evening.

It has been a crap day. He told me last night he thinks he and the kids have threadworms and totally freaked out. Since I got home from work I have de wormed the kids, vacuumed the whole house, changed all the bedding and done 3 loads of washing. The baby wouldn't sleep, cried for an hour. He got home at 9pm, special dinner on the table and iPlayer ready.

He brought a bottle of wine but no chocs as it would have "undone all my hardwork in the gym yesterday" and no flowers as "the ones in the co op weren't special enough" sad

He is a twat, yes?

dondon33 Thu 04-Oct-12 14:32:02

No not a twat, I get that he didn't want to bring home a shitty bunch of flowers for you but some choc's would of been nice regardless of your gym workout.

Have a belated anniversary at the weekend when you're both more relaxed.

Grrr thread worms -my youngest brought them home a few times when he was in nursery and to be honest it used to freak me out shock and send me into super, excessive hygiene overdrive. (disinfecting door knobs, hand rails etc because the eggs can live outside of the body for upto 2 weeks and re-infect everyone angry )

Make sure everyone is treated with the anti-worm stuff, including yourself. It's also a good idea, if you know which of DC got them first, to inform the Nursery/School so other parents can act - no good you treating your family if it's raging in the classroom- it'll very quickly come back to your home sad

I know it's probably a bit uncomfy but I used to cover my DS bum with sudacrem before bed, to try and stop the worms laying there nightly eggs and also to stop the itch making it less likely he would scratch himself.

Lovingfreedom Thu 04-Oct-12 17:48:26

mmm....threadworms how romantic.... Last year one of my DCs contracted scabies which required treatment for the whole family. In one of my happier interludes of last year, exH and I found that coating each other head to toe in insecticide (as part of the treatment) was actually rather arousing (aside from the terrible smell) and ended up in a romantic tryst that almost saved the marriage. That's tmi I know...

itsallinmyhead Thu 04-Oct-12 18:02:00

Bless you. As to your question OP, it seems like there was quite a bit going on & your big day crept up on you both.

I reckon you might be frazzled & as a result, feel a little hurt by your husbands lack of sentiment.

I say regroup, find a sitter & get you both a night away to enjoy your anniversary.

P.s CONGRATS!

Opentooffers Thu 04-Oct-12 19:33:41

Yes he's a git, leave him !
lol, like to think you are just sounding off for a mo as this is small potato. Enjoy rest of life together. Good luck when things like this happen again, it's all part of family life and you'll laugh about it one day

In the cold light of day, it appears I was a bit of a twat. No, I didn't buy him anything, but I spent about 4 hours coaxing worm powder into the DC and trying to eradicate worm eggs ( eaurgh ~ eggs on for handles, really?). We have made up and I've begged my mum to have the DC while we celebrate/commiserate. Thank you.

dondon33 Fri 05-Oct-12 03:36:54

You can get tablets Not
I don't know if the eggs can actually live on handles (I did say I went into super-excessive-hygiene-overdrive lol) but just in case.

Good you've made up, enjoy your DC free time x

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