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FFS, sometimes H's inability to ever be wrong, ever, just drives me insane

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bran Wed 03-Oct-12 11:26:25

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avenueone Thu 04-Oct-12 23:09:05

It becomes so boring ....... (if not serious abuse) if my ex were here now he would swear to god it was Friday and he would keep arguing until midnight so he could be right....
Next time, tell him you love a challenge and this is too easy.. get your coat and tell him you are going somewhere you can have a real debate and you will see him in a few hours.

bran Thu 04-Oct-12 23:03:59

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RandomMess Thu 04-Oct-12 22:41:44

bran I am shock about that - when did things in Ireland change???

bran Thu 04-Oct-12 22:30:57

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fuckadoodlepoopoo Thu 04-Oct-12 19:48:37

Bloody hell! They didn't have their own tax number!?

bran Thu 04-Oct-12 14:16:30

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fuckadoodlepoopoo Wed 03-Oct-12 20:28:37

What an arse!

All men are definitely not like that! Its interesting that your mum says they are, does that mean your dad was like that with your mum?

bran Wed 03-Oct-12 18:06:33

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dondon33 Wed 03-Oct-12 15:25:08

Ahh Bran, it's so tiresome isn't it?
Good you do have a plan to leave. You don't deserve to put up with his behaviour.

He really enjoyed feistyness in women So I'm assuming he got that with you, going by your statement - because I'm not the type that can be controlled

He can't have you become a different person just because he always wants to be right....it was ok back in the day so why does he feel the need to now compare you unfavourably to his brother's wife. You describe her as an Angel, possibly she is but YOU are head and shoulders above her for putting up with your DH - tell him to put that in his pipe and smoke it.

Regarding the "dying" comments :@ OMG how horrible - the man is a twat!!
Sorry about your Dad and your Aunt xx

I know it's not helpful to the situation but when he's forcing "rightness" on you and you know it's doubtful wrong information. I couldn't help myself wind him up to keep replying "ok, honey that's your opinion" smile

Mayisout Wed 03-Oct-12 15:21:27

Should have been 'so you have to have your say very stridently...', no it.

Mayisout Wed 03-Oct-12 15:18:42

My DH is a bit like this. And the upshot of living with an expert is that YOU become 'unreasonable' in your efforts to make your point because you are wrong before you start, and they don't want to hear it anyway, so you have to have your say it very stridently to get it in at all.

My DH works very hard at being the most knowledgeable. He was the eldest of 5 so I think maybe he always expected to be the cleverest and still wants to be. He can spout facts about the area (for example when we have visitors) and tell great tales so I just let him get on with it.

But he can be sneery about my family (siblings parents not DCs). I put this down to jealousy possibly due to the fact that they can take up my time. And that might be the reason for the nasty comment from your DH, OP.

I am trying to call him on these things as soon as I feel that slight tensing of the tummy muscles when he has annoyed me but often miss the chance as I have chosen not to respond to them (in an effort to keep the peace) for so long.

DameKewcumber Wed 03-Oct-12 14:50:57

I'm so sorry about your Dad.

DameKewcumber Wed 03-Oct-12 14:50:40

Oh BRan - have you tried poking in the eye for no obvious reason from time to time, I'm sure it will make you feel much better.

I had a (long term) ex just like this. The only thing which worked for me in the end was before we got into an argument but after his initial "correct" statement, instead of trying to put my view forward I would smile and say very calmy - "you do realise that just because you say that, doesn't actually make it true?" and refuse to discuss it any further.

Re the "well they'll all be dead soon" comments which can't really be argued with because who the hell normal knows or would state it as a fact that came into my "I see, we're going for the irrelevant statement rather than being grown-up and talking about how I/they feel" and change the subject.

If you persist it can drive them insane, of course it won't actually help your marriage unless he perks up and pays attention which didn't happen in my case.

AnastasiaSteele Wed 03-Oct-12 14:42:43

I was relieved to read further on you plan on getting out bran. He sounds a DELIGHT hmm.

I'm sorry you lost your darling Dad.

fuckadoodlepoopoo Wed 03-Oct-12 14:12:51

He sounds a nightmare! I couldn't be with someone like that.

StuntGirl Wed 03-Oct-12 14:03:16

I'm glad you feel you have a plan of escape bran. You deserve more happiness than this man can give you.

bran Wed 03-Oct-12 13:52:40

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NormaStanleyFletcher Wed 03-Oct-12 13:42:04

How utterly wearing that must be.

Good luck with the exit plan smile

BillyBollyBandy Wed 03-Oct-12 13:35:27

Only an inferior mind cannot accept it is wrong. Tell him that wink

My DF is like this in some ways. He isn't controlling but if you prove him wrong he says you misunderstood whay he was saying orginally. And he cheats at Monopoly. I could throttle him grin

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Wed 03-Oct-12 13:24:40
StuntGirl Wed 03-Oct-12 13:20:02

Er, cogito blush

StuntGirl Wed 03-Oct-12 13:19:25

cognito grin

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 03-Oct-12 12:57:30

"I think he probably feels now that an unquestioning wife who takes pride in her housework and enjoys cooking would be the ideal"

That's his Christmas present sorted then. One time-machine to transport him back 60 years.... smile Doesn't all this standing firm in the face of overwhelming evidence just make him look like a tit?

bran Wed 03-Oct-12 12:42:41

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wednesdaygirl Wed 03-Oct-12 12:24:49

Tell him to put the lottery on for me then if hes never wrong wink

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