Ex and I have a not great history. Been apart 6m, he's now with his 21 yr old co-worker who he swore he wasn't having an EA with. She was staying at our marital home within a few days of us officially splitting, he now stays at hers as I rightly went nuts about him having her stay in our home. I'm trying to get a sale through the courts. Lots of EA over the years, very controlling, reading lundy he's a water torturer, death by a thousand papercuts! I'm still v upset and angry at times, have had to completely detach, access done via my DM. I've said I don't want to talk to him, will discuss DC's via email or text but nothing else unless via solicitors or mediators. That way he can't 'push buttons.'
Last night I emailed him to say DS2 had an open eve at prospective senior school later in the month. Did he want to take him or should I? Thought I was being a considerate co-parent.
Tonight DC's ring me to say goodnight, his night to have them. DD2 tells me that he's moved them into a different room (not a problem), but then that he's put DD3 (2yrs 5m) into a cot bed. No discussion, no warning that he was thinking of it, even though it will affect her continuity between homes and how she sleeps here. Also she has preschool in the morning, so if she's really tired it may affect how she settles there. Been ok so far, but they do say she can be a little emotional if tired or has a cold etc.
I just think it's completely inconsiderate and his usual self absorbed self to not realise that this should be a joint parenting decision, as say properly starting potty training would be. Aaaahhhhh, talk me down please!!
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AIBU to expect ex to at least let me know about moving DD3 into a proper bed at his house?
paranoidandroidwreckmyownlife · 02/10/2012 21:08
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