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Twitter/facebook I love you's?

(59 Posts)
donotsquandertime Mon 01-Oct-12 20:35:33

Just curious really, if any of you have twitter or facebook do you message your partner in the day with I love you's/make statements on twitter sort of " I am so lucky have best husband" type of thing, norm or not ?

Mylittlepuds Mon 01-Oct-12 22:02:46

Don't get me started about FB bragging. It's the root of all evil. "thank you to my wonderful son who treated his mummy to a Gucci handbag for Mother's Day." Said son is 2. Yuck. WTF is the point of this? Even people that say things like "So excited to go away for the weekend with my gorgeous hubby.". Why do we all need to know? And why do we need to see pictures of your breakfast. Weird, pathetic. I'm coming off FB. It's bullshit.

missymoomoomee Mon 01-Oct-12 22:06:14

THE BATH???????? shock

I agree about the photos of gifts, one of my friends does this, even with a £2.99 bunch of half dead flowers and she types things like - oh ma man luvs me sooooooooooooo much I'll have a speshul treat for him l8r ;).

The same friend also takes a photo of every meal she cooks him with a rundown of what it is and how long it took her to make it 'Ma man is sooooo lucky, tonight its steak and onion pie, cooked for 30 mins with hand chopped cauli, hand mashed potatoes with cream all covered in hand whisked beef gravy with ice cream for puddin'. I'm sure no-one except those two give a shit about what they are having for tea.

flowerygirl Mon 01-Oct-12 22:12:01

I would still take annoying declarations of love any day over the 'vague' statuses always appearing on my feed!

E.g 'Louise just heard some VERY interesting news'

cue loads of comments 'oh hun, tell us the news' and then she'll say 'no I have to keep it a secret'

Urgh!

Mylittlepuds Mon 01-Oct-12 22:13:15

God she sounds like a right c*ck missy

Mylittlepuds Mon 01-Oct-12 22:15:02

Yes Flower or "there are some jealous people out there - revenge is sweet." Stop talking in bloody riddles. Get a grip.

greeneyed Mon 01-Oct-12 22:15:16

Yeah don't get the cooking bragging and pictures of the meal I have a friend who does this all the time. Worse still the aren't I a great parent bragging - I'm so proud little Jonny just ate his who body weight in Kale, Bulgar Wheat whatever. Here's a picture of the busy box activity I made for my toddler to play with today, I'd like to take said toddler to the cinema but we don't have a telly so no idea what he'd like to see - what are you looking for a bloody medal!! Rant over.

MimiSunshine Mon 01-Oct-12 22:15:40

Gushing about or to your other half is definitely over compensating. In the instance I know of, one was having an emotional affair and the other found out. After lots of councling they stayed together and now it's near daily postings about how gorgeous / wonderful / amazing... Their other half is.
It fools no one except maybe themselves

StaceeJaxx Mon 01-Oct-12 22:18:09

madonnawhore I think you're right.

A few years ago me and DH were going through an awful time in our relationship (we almost split up), and we would do stuff like that quite frequently. We'd never done it before , and since we're ok now we haven't done it since either. it makes me cringe when I think back to what we used to write. blush

Mylittlepuds Mon 01-Oct-12 22:18:29

Pfft at 'but we don't have a telly,". Am starting to feel purged.

missymoomoomee Mon 01-Oct-12 22:21:57

She is mylittle they split for a while and she played the whole thing out over fb, even regarding the kids, she would tell everyone when he gave/didn't give money, did/didn't show up, if he was out, if she was out, even things like 'Ooooh cosy night in with wine, a takeaway and a male friend for company'. Then after slagging him off for 4 months solid announced they were back together and had a go at anyone who said anything against him. Thankfully she is one of those 'friend of a friend' type people, and one of the many reasons I deactivated my FB and became addicted to mumsnet instead

flowerygirl Mon 01-Oct-12 22:25:11

Another annoying one is those 'countdown to our wedding' apps. I had a few friends from school getting married over the summer and everyday I would get 5 postings saying 'it's 5 days, 3 hours, 4 mins and 20 secs until I marry my best friend'

AWFUL!

I hope none of you are talking about me! I thought you'd be interested in the nice meal I cooked my hubby on our anniversary, and I do love him. grin

Don't do check ins though.

LilPud Mon 01-Oct-12 22:29:40

I have one friend who is guilty of all of the above - everyday it's love you husband', 'here's my lunch', 'my son is soo clever', I'm making tea, I'm at the gym ...... And then the vague stuff 'omg' 'bad stuff coming' and no response to all the 'hope you're ok' stuff. Does my head in.

Heleninahandcart Mon 01-Oct-12 22:32:37

"Had the best curry tonight, eva"
"Fank ooo"
"Aww, fank ooo babes" <boak>
Now I know these two are in the same room, lounging on the same bed.

greeneyed Mon 01-Oct-12 22:38:46

Yes the attention seeking vague comments about something disastrous then no follow up, why?

MsKayGee Mon 01-Oct-12 23:15:08

My favourite status updates are...

"On my way to A&E with my poorly baby."
They can't be that ill and it's not exactly an emergency if you've got the time/inclination to update your status.

"I'm so upset/pissed off/angry/depressed"
Cue 20 people responding "Awww Hun what's up".
"I can't say on here/I'll pm you"
ATTENTION WHORE grin

"Sick of bitchy people. If you've got something to say, say it to my face".
Really? How about you practice what you preach.

greeneyed Tue 02-Oct-12 08:28:15

Mskay - agree with all of the above!!!

stifnstav Wed 03-Oct-12 08:00:28

"Like this photo if you love your kids". Er, no. Don't think that really counts as love/parenting/anything your kid will give a shiny shit about.

newmum001 Wed 03-Oct-12 08:18:03

No, a woman i used to work with and her boyfriend do it several times a day.

"who lus ya bubs"
"luv ya right back sugartits
"we are mint yeah, FACT!"

Vom!!!!

dondon33 Wed 03-Oct-12 17:48:47

smile smile I'm pissing myself at most of your posts. A lot are my own particular irritants on FB

Both me and DP have accounts on FB, not used very often but occasionally when DP has been on he'll post an "I luv u" but in his native language so no one understands it anyway smile but we don't do "gushing" "what's been eaten at dinner" or check ins.

I particularly detest the ones, usually about suffering an illness, that say I know my friends won't repost this even just for 1 minute...... If you know then why fecking tag it to my wall and expect people to then??

dondon33 Wed 03-Oct-12 17:53:52

Oh thought of another that boils my piss....Childish 20/30 some things that update relationship statuses after EVERY minor frigging argument.
I had a FB friend who done it almost on a weekly basis - she is 34 FFS not 14.

madonnawhore Wed 03-Oct-12 17:57:49

I unfriended someone the other day who kept posting pics of her children when they were ill. I found it very odd. Poor little Johnny* tucked up in bed with vomiting and a fever. Spotty Jenny* covered in calamine and feeling terrible with the chicken pox.

Weird. She did it so often it started to seem like a 'thing'.

*Not their real names obviously.

I have never yet looked at DH FB.

Why would I, he's here in front of me.

Tigresswoods Wed 03-Oct-12 18:28:12

Ha I am friends on FB with a bloke I used to be at school with. He was always posting on there how much he loved his wife. They separated a few months ago.

greeneyed Wed 03-Oct-12 18:56:35

Yeah detest the 90 % of my friends won't repost this posts no you're right we won't! Also hate pictures of home improvements, I.e here's a picture of my new bathroom, fireplace etc, I get loads of these at the moment. Nothing could be more dull!

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