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Selfish bastard's out on the piss again

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BetteDavis01 · 27/09/2012 19:16

It's not every night but when he does go out, he misses his stop on the train, makes a load of noise when he gets home and then vomits. He's not violent but he is arsey the next day.

Im at home with two babies, fucking exhausted. I do see my friends and I do drink, but I don't get pissed out of my head and make a nuisance of myself.

I'm so resentful. Just needed to rant.

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SorryMyLollipop · 27/09/2012 20:16

Have you heard of Al Anon? They offer support for people who are affected by someone else's drinking.

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SaraSidle · 27/09/2012 20:18

That sounds awful. Is there no reasoning with him?

Could you record him and shame him?

Terrible behaviour

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ErikNorseman · 27/09/2012 20:57

This is not normal or acceptable :(

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crazygracieuk · 27/09/2012 20:59

I make my dh stay over at a colleague's /brother's house if he goes out drinking with them. [evil]

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GoldShip · 27/09/2012 20:59

I wouldn't put up with this at all. How often does it happen?

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expatinscotland · 27/09/2012 21:00

How often does this happen?

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Proudnscary · 27/09/2012 21:02

How often does this happen?

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solidgoldbrass · 27/09/2012 21:21

If it's once a year and he's lovely the rest of the time, it might be worth putting up with by means of insisting he takes his spew and his hangover to someone else's house and, on his nights out, he basically stops elsewhere and doesn't come home till he's acceptable.

If it's twice a week then, whether or not he has an actual drink problem, he's being very selfish and you might want to at least look into what your position would be if you threw him out.

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BetteDavis01 · 27/09/2012 22:01

A couple of nights a week. Sad

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expatinscotland · 27/09/2012 22:25

Twice a week? Oh, no. That's him being out or arsey a total of 4 days/week.

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expatinscotland · 27/09/2012 22:26

What does he do for a living that he can afford this, for one?

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hildebrandisgettinghappier · 27/09/2012 22:26

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Shakey1500 · 27/09/2012 22:27

Nooo nooo no, twice a week? That's excessive.

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solidgoldbrass · 27/09/2012 22:58

And how much time a week do you get to have fun and go out?

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lydiamama · 27/09/2012 23:28

He needs help, and be reminded that he has a huge responsability with these two babies. He could get ill from the drinking, fall and break a bone, fall and get seriously hurt, be hungover next morning and fail to attend/perform work, loose his job, house, many consequences.... It is ok to drink a bit time to time when you go out, but I believe it is not ok for a parent to get drunk, they kids and partner need them 100% of the time, and need them to be healthy and safe. Does he recognize that he has a problem?

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MsKayGee · 28/09/2012 09:12

Blind drunk twice a week to the point of vomiting?

He has an alcohol problem. Second the advice to call AA.

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rafape · 28/09/2012 09:57

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 28/09/2012 10:00

@rafape... 'man haters'? Hmm Are you suggesting that the OP should fall to the ground and adore a particular type of man i.e one who pisses the family money up the wall, vomits on their return home and is then neither use nor ornament the next day?

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mcmooncup · 28/09/2012 10:02

He sounds like a barrel of laughs.
Yanbu. It's just shit/boring/pointless/dull/unfulfilling/disrespectful/unattractive living with that sort of behaviour. No life for anyone.

I hope you don't clean up his vomit.

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mcmooncup · 28/09/2012 10:05

I imagine rafape also has similar expectations of how to behave in a partnership. And it probably hasn't quite worked out to plan.....damn those nasty wimmin man hating rad fems Wink

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akaemmafrost · 28/09/2012 10:21

Is that you ex H?

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LtEveDallas · 28/09/2012 10:28

rafape - very close to RAF (Regiment) (Rock) Ape - not exactly known for their intelligence, but very good at getting drunk, getting into fights, trying to kill each other et al.

Best ignored.

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hildebrandisgettinghappier · 28/09/2012 10:50

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