I feel so sad. I don't want to break up our family. I don't know what to do. Since the birth of DS (20 months) we have had no sex life, and major bickering and misunderstanding.
DP has said some hurtful things I cant let go of. He said that it was my fault that I got preeclampsia and therefore was induced and had a horrible birth because I put on weight when I was pregnant. He said that he cant comprehend why I wouldn't want to get back into the shape I was before pregnancy. For some context - I am 5 foot 2 and was a size 4-6 before, now I am a 14. I know this is a change but I just wish I wasnt so judged for it. Somedays I think I look horrible and some days I think I look okay, but I know if I were living in some non-image obsessed society it would rarely factor into my thoughts. He told me a few months after the birth that I would have to get in shape before I could have another baby and I think this just made me withdraw from him and not desire to sleep with him.
He is not all bad and says other things that could be supportive but I just feel like I cant let go of the plain mean things that he has said and so these colour the context of the supportive comments and make him seem in my eyes condescending, patronising and pressurising.
I dont want to be with him anymore but I am petrified of the practical consequences of breaking up, so I could do with someone telling me it will be okay.
I don't want to drip feed as there is so much to say that I dont know where to start.
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Need support please - DP are in the process of breaking up
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OrangeDynevorian · 27/09/2012 14:28
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