I love my DP dearly but I don't think I've ever been 'in love' with him (or anyone else for that matter), apart from fleeting moments. This matters to me sometimes and not others. I'm mainly pragmatic: I'd rather be with my wonderful DP than blindly in love with a man that's nowhere near as good as him. I love being with him and have zero complaints about him or our relationship, apart that lack of extra spark, which I think might be missing - but since I've never had it who knows? Maybe I just don't know love when it comes up and slaps me in the face.
This niggle has led me to hit a stumbling block that I can't seem to get over. I can't commit to marrying him, the thought absolutely terrifies me. I know I'm treating him extremely badly and wasting his life as well as my own. He would marry me tomorrow; I decide (internally) I can do it one day then start doubting the next. I sometimes think my doubts must be my inner voice telling me something is not right, but then I think of all the people who were once 'sure' who are now divorced and wonder if going into marriage not blinded by falling in love is actually a good thing. I have absolutely no desire to split up with my wonderful partner, just can't bring myself to commit fully. What is wrong with me?!?!?
I would appreciate your thoughts especially from anyone who's ever been in this situation.
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Loving someone vs. being 'in love'
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qumquat · 02/09/2012 18:10
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