He doesn't seem to enjoy family life at all. We have DD (3) and DS (9 weeks). He does love the children, but they seem to be such a chore for him. For instance, DD came to our room at 7.20 this morning, after sleepin all night. He groaned and moaned and tried to get her to go back to her room. I got up with her as I think that's a perfectly respectable time! Also, she deserves to have somebody cheerful with her!
He thinks the holiday we're going on next week will be 'too hard with them both'. It's his parents' (free) caravan for four nights. He's got a week off work beforehand...
He seems pissed off all the time that DS cries. He doesn't cry much, just has episodes, usually in the evening, when he screams a bit. I have him in a sling usually and he calms down.
He won't want to do anything today (except play on the computer). I've started to organise things for the children and me for ourselves and say he can come along if he wants (trying not to be PA about it).
I don't complain about the lack of time to myself (none at all - but that's to be expected with a tiny baby around).
I've been depressed in the past and am taking ADs at the moment due to antenatal depression. It's gone now and I'm not depressed. The AND was due to anxiety about how I'd cope with a new baby and DD, knowing, really, that it would be like this. He will put it down to depression if I try to talk to him about this. Beginning to think it's he who is depressed, but he'd never accept that in a million years.
I don't really know what to do. Just put up with it and carry on with the children as I am? I am a SAHM, many miles away from family.
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I really think DH would be happier without us
belindarose · 02/09/2012 08:16
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