Hello
I have been a member of MN for some years now, under different Usernames at times.
I am now a single Mum of two DCs. I left my P some two years ago now and it was the hardest thing I've ever done and never want to go through it again. MN was my 'bible' at times and made me see sense and gave some wonderful advice.
So it took me years to leave ex and I've never looked back. I have not regretted it for a second and I know that I did the right thing, for all of us.
However, all that aside, I am lonely and struggling with being single.
I am scared that this is my life now and it's not a very good one. I just feel I'm existing rather than living.
I've had two serious relationships since leaving ex........the first turned out to not be the person I thought he was and the second was far too committed to his cans of Stella and 40 fags a day.
All I want to do is.......nothing! I am sitting here typing this while I have three mountain peaks of washing needing to be done and three mountain peaks of clean washing needing to be put away. There are dishes in the sink, there is something smelling in the fridge, the floors are sticky, the carpets have bits all over them and the beds are un-made yet I have no urge to do any of it.
I'm a rubbish Mum..........I choose frozen and canned food to feed my DCs when I should be giving them fresh, nutritious food.
I desperately need to lose weight. I just cannot get my head around it.
I long, and always have, to get married, have more children and be someone's life partner but it's looking less and less likely now.
My ex, continues to put me down........at contact handovers, I get comments like 'you've really let yourself go since leaving me' and 'turning to the bottle a bit too much aren't we' (I drink Friday/Saturday nights only). I know I should ignore but I can't as he's probably right.
I am losing control of the household finances.......bills coming out of my ears and no money to pay them.
I am clearly not meant to be a single mum but here I am, doing a crappy job at it and it's what I wanted!!
Can't shake these feelings.
Back to work on Monday after summer hols off and as it's getting me out of this bloody house, I'm actually looking forward to it.
Not looking for any answers or advice really as there isn't any I deserve but needed to get it out of my head somehow.
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32, no future to look forward to :(
WoodchipWall · 01/09/2012 11:42
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