I am so unhappy I don't know where to start!
'D'h and I have been married for 12 years. I made the decision to leave a very stressful but exciting career after dc2 was born 3 years ago because I felt I just couldn't do everything. DH was very supportive of the decision.
Since then I feel that our relationship has slowly but very steadily declined. A year ago I started to do some freelance work.
I knew when I left work that the majority of the house work and child care would fall on me and I am ok with that.
But dh whilst being a great dad is just not what I want as a husband.
The relationship has to work on his terms.
We talk when he has time, we go out if he wants and only when it's convenient to him, if I want to discuss anything (mostly to do with dcs) then it has to be done when he's in the mood and if he's busy then a discussion and decision arrived at within 30 seconds!
Most evenings after dcs are asleep he's working, or out with friends. He travels between 10-14 days out of every month for work. We can only have sex at night and if he's in the mood.
He spoils the dc all the time and I'm always the bad cop, having to instill routine and discipline.
I know that I am responsible for the more mundane things but why do I feel like I'm alway always the bad cop?
Whilst he's fantastic if the kids are I'll or need anything of him, he's completely insensitive to how I feel. He never notices or appreciates any effort I make........
So why don't I leave?
He's a great dad. The dc adore him. Apart from his complete insensitivity to me, he's a good person.
So what is wrong with me? Why can't I accept that life changes and maybe this is as good as it gets?
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Help me accept that this is as good as it gets
lazycoconutree · 29/08/2012 20:46
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