Just been dumped by DH who has moved 3hrs away. DD is 5. I have no experience of contact arrangements and what is reasonable. DD will be living with me but financially/practically he won't be able to travel every weekend. I can't afford the petrol to take her to him.
Any experiences or suggestions as to what would be reasonable? How do you manage Xmas, birthdays etc when such a distance is involved?
He won't discuss with me the reasons for wanting to separate, all I know is that he thinks it's permanent and not a trial. I don't want to let her stay with him until he has talked to me about what's going on and discussed future arrangements but is that reasonable?
I'm assuming that there will turn out to be an OW, can I insist that he doesn't play happy families unless I know about it?
Advice much appreciated.
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Contact arrangements when STBXH lives 3hr drive away
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duffybeatmetoit · 28/08/2012 22:25
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