This seems a bit trivial compared to others' threads on here, but I'm getting really nervous and need some help from OD experts!
Is it ok to meet someone halfway for a first meeting when you live 30 miles apart?Â
This might seem like a classic case of over thinking things, but I've read The Rules (he he) years ago and it's kind of drummed into me that the man always does most of the running, ie comes to you or at least travels further than you , initiates most of the phone calls etc, and you let him - otherwise it seems like you're keener than him.Â
BUT ! Do you think that need apply when you've never met? All bets are off when it's the first screening, surely!Â
I've had lots of emails and texts with a guy from POF (he he!) he asked to meet and said he'd come to meet me (so far so good) but then he started talking about getting a hotel so he could have a drink as he'd be nervous.Â
I don't want him to do this!!Â
It's a mid-week meeting, I've got work at 730 the following morning, I just want to have a quick drink to see if I like him!Â
Don't know what his motives are, he could either think his luck is in, or just want to make more of a night of it cos he's travelling a bit of a way,Â
If I say let's meet somewhere we both drive to, so I can scarper if I don't like him (and scarper if I do like him!) , will that be 'acceptable' under the rules? I know many MNers think dating rules are a pile of bollocks, but I'm a bit of an advocate actually, as they seem to have worked for me beforeÂ
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lookslikeacoconut · 25/08/2012 15:17
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