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Do you ever read the advice in magazine problem pages....

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chipmonkey · 23/08/2012 01:03

and think, what the feck sort of stupid advice is that! Don't ask magazine, ask MN!

In one instance a woman said her dp didn't like her talking on the phone to her friends. I thought "Red flag! Controlling, trying to isolate her from her support circle. Run for the hills!" and the advice the male "counsellor" gave was "Tell him you're talking about him" normalising the twattish behaviour!

It's not just me, is it?

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tallwivglasses · 23/08/2012 01:08

You're right. They're stuck in the 50's. I think they poach their agony aunts from netmums Grin

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chipmonkey · 23/08/2012 01:21

Ah! I was wondering where they were breeding them!

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Alameda · 23/08/2012 01:31

no wonder some people find this section of MN dangerously subversive and in need of moderation Grin

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carernotasaint · 23/08/2012 02:17

Funny this thread should appear as i was flicking through this weeks Woman at a till yesterday (i know that was my mistake) and a woman had written in about her husband not wanting sex with her (in case any of you have seen my other posts i will say here that it wasnt me.
Anyway the answer given was for the woman to make all the effort and cajole him etc turning the issue back on to her.
The trouble with a lot of the womens mags (especially ones like these which have been going since the 50s or longer) is that not much has changed. A lot of them are still as sexist and mysogynistic as they were then!

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FairPhyllis · 23/08/2012 03:49

I often think this about advice columns in the Guardian ...

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Lueji · 23/08/2012 08:48

"Tell him you're talking about him"

Yeah, that would definitely put a controlling man at ease! Not.

I think it's the Telegraph that has an advice column with mother and daughter, usually offering opposite views. Useful. :)

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Heleninahandcart · 23/08/2012 15:30

I agree, in magazine world there is nothing that dressing up for your husband in some sexy underwear and a weekend away without the kids won't solve. Or being patient and understanding that he needs to go to him bat man cave.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 23/08/2012 15:37

I don't read problem pages because I strongly suspect that the questions as well as the answers are dreamt up on the back of a beer mat and the Agony Aunt is not the fierce looking broad in specs pictured at the top of the column but a divorced bloke with a chip on his shoulder.

I wish I could find it now but, when I got married back in the eighties, someone gave me a glossy magazine-like publication called 'Advice for Brides' or something similar. It looked modern enough but the content was straight out of Stepford. Always be wearing something nice when he comes home .. Don't bother him with the trivia of your day before you've asked him about the weighty problems of his...

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MissFaversam · 23/08/2012 15:39

Oh and what about the ones that have piccys of everyone half dressed with the speach bubbles saying absolute crap Grin

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 23/08/2012 15:52

That's not a problem page, that's a Jackie Magazine Photo Love Story!

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KatieScarlett2833 · 23/08/2012 16:07

God I loved Cathy and Claire in Blue Jeans.

I expect I wouldn't love them so much nowadays.....

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