I feel like giving in.

[daiseehope]

Hi
I feel a fraud somehow writing on here, but would be really grateful to receive some advice from truly unbiased sources please..
My DP and me have 3 kids / 12 yrs / house / huge debts. I have really changed my outlook over the past 2 years, I had a nervous breakdown 2 yr ago and I now value what is cheesily important. (i.e. not being mad ( i was for a bit), my gorgeous kids, dp etc). To be honest, my debts bother me a bit but I don't worry too much. I'm just doing my best and being honest. All I need now is a happy, calm home life and to be able to look forwards to re-achieving full time employment. However, I have PTSD, depression and anxiety caused by work place bullying by a senior male, which reoccurred when i moved job. Due to the symptoms I couldn't hold the responsible and challenging job down and my contract ends 31Aug, I was also abused as a child and now I feel like I may be living with another. This has been hard to think.
Having read many, many threads on here I know that my partner's behaviour towards me is not respectful, loving or kind. I know really that it cannot be setting a good example to our kids. I know leaving is better than staying. Unfortunately I do not own the house we live in. My MIL (sensible / cunning / not sure) offered to buy a house for us when we were unable to sell in time for the new job start but would only do so if it was just her and dp on deeds. I have been told I have to show that I have put in to the household (which I have enormously). Does anyone know? as I would just ask him to leave then. I have said before when he has been particularly nasty to me that I wanted to split and he said that her wasn't going anywhere and neither were the kids.

I am not the easiest person to live with. I have been a right mess - bedridden, or doped up, unreasonable or anxious and tearful, but I'm loads stronger and I know I can improve. My family as a whole are great and help in millions of ways, his ignore it all. Sometimes he's fab and supportive, then he'll turn for some or no reason and just be really mardy, snipey, muttering or possibly shouty and finger pointing. He doesn't physically abuse me, but he can be awful to live with. My son has noticed and commented - he is not happy. Its been going on for ages but I'm so used to bullying that it just feels normal. I have tried to talk about it but he just reflects stuff "so do you". Sad thing is at some point he will sob and wail for forgiveness. Cant hack any more, he's just a miserable fucking git and we deserve better, can i ask him to leave legally? ty

[dondon33]

I'm not making excuses for him but could he be depressed himself? It sounds like you've all been through a heavy few years and it could be affecting him this way.

[izzyizin]

If you're not married and your home is owned by him and his dm, it's highly unlikely that you'll be able to legally enforce him leaving you in possession of the property.

That is not to say that you won't be able to make some claim on the property but you will need to seek legal advice from a solicitor who specialises in these matters.

If you don't know of any highly recommended --rottweilers- solicitors in your area, the Legal matters board on this site is a good place to start.

Have you sought legal advice in relation to the bullying you experienced in your workplace?