Just looking for thoughts really....I have been with dp for 3 years known him since we were at uni, I have ds 4 and dd 14 (sgo but in every way she is my daughter) I have a good job home ed my son my dd is doing great I own my own house it's been bloody hard but I am really happy.
Was not in anyway looking for a relationship but dp was great when I was recovering from having my ds and we fell in love. He's wonderful kind considerate adores my
Children, he's the only father ds has ever known. He talks to me makes me laugh. I have recently had a serious operation to repon my hips and he has been incredible. He spends most of his time here and really wants to move in fully. Thing is I trust him I really do but I'm scared. So scared he understands this has given me all the time in the world is not pressuring me at all says he will still be here in 20 years even if I still send him back to his every few nights. He has seen me at my worst puts up with my stubbornness and ridiculous need to maintain my independence. Just scared scared at the thought of entwining my whole life with someone I am kidding myself that because he doesn't live here it's only my heart that could get hurt but that's crap my
children adore him. I don't know what I would do without him but I'm still scared - he puts the bins out ffs and he doesn't even live here. I want to say yes move in it would make me happy but my own fears are just holding me back. He has proved himself a thousand ways do I just say yes or wait....for what I have no idea. My friends in rl all tell me to go for it they love him. I'm just looking for some oerspectjve I guess....
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Mama1980 · 01/08/2012 23:02
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