I have two friends that this concerns: one I'm more friendly with (I'll call her Jo here) and Alex (name also changed). Jo and Alex are very close friends.
I met Jo this morning and as we were chatting, the subject of children's age-gaps arose. Alex's children have large differences in age: they're 16, 8 and 2.
It's nosey of me, but I've always been curious if the children are all from her current partner. It matters not, but I have been curious. They just seem like unusually large planned age gaps with the same partner, that's all. A part of me feels bad for even being curious, but I'm not friendly enough with Alex to ask her without being uncomfortable, and while we were on te subject, the question just slipped out.
So I casually asked Jo and she said that the eldest was with another chap, but that the youngest two are full siblings. She said that Alex planned the gaps and prefers it that way.
Fine.
Jo then called this afternoon saying she was racked with guilt because she actually didn't know as Alex never talks about it. She said she felt awful, never lies and has no idea why told me this lie.
Now, I really like both women (particularly Jo) but I have no idea where this came from, or why she'd lie. Our eldest children are the same age so we could get to be really good friends, but do you think I have any reason to treat her with caution?
I'd appreciate if you would be civil regarding my question about Alex. I know I've been nosey and shouldn't have asked, really. It was just curiosity on my behalf.
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MammaTonic · 01/08/2012 18:11
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