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I have the biggest crush on someone...

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Genvonklinkerhoffen · 26/07/2012 17:59

And I feel about 16. It's driving me mad!! I'm serving in Afghanistan (where women are outnumbered by men 10:1-read into that what you will). There is a guy who I have been seeing in the course of my day and he asked me to do him a favour in work which I did-this entailed us exchanging phone numbers; he's asked me out for a coffee (that's as exciting as it gets here!) a few times when he hasn't been working and I'm dying to know if he's asking me because he likes me or if it's because he's been here for months and hasn't touched a woman!!

I'd just like to add that I am a professional soldier and absolutely nothing would happen here but I don't want to make a tit of myself by asking to see him when we get back to the UK and him laugh at me because he's just passing the time in the absence of anyone else to talk to.

The most annoying part is that I get such butterflies when I see him and all my preplanned questions go out of the window because I'm nervous!!

I don't even know if I'm after advice, I just don't have anyone to talk to out here (and 30min of internet a day) and I wanted to share this amongst friends (can you tell it's a bit lonely...??).

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cocolepew · 26/07/2012 18:03

Go for coffee and see how it goes, dont say anything until you get more of an idea about his feelings.
Stay safe

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Genvonklinkerhoffen · 26/07/2012 18:31

We've been twice, just the two of us & talked for about two hours into the small hours. He's working tonight & I don't want to seem too keen & make a fool of myself by asking him if we'll go again but likewise I don't want to seem uninterested.

Fuck me, when did this become so hard?!? It's a minefield. I will try to grow up & ask him some questions without wearing my heart on my sleeve too obviously.

It's quite exciting though!!

I just don't want to be stupid because there are so few women here & some blokes just assume that they can choose women like lobsters in a restaurant.

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LostMyIdentityAlongTheWay · 26/07/2012 22:17

Yes but if you're aware if the ratio, you'll be careful not to give the wrong 'available' impression.

Do you honestly have no idea how he feels? No gut feeling? If you do, try to run with it, its often true, especially if its telling you he DIDN'T fancy you.

Sounds my idea of bliss, that kind of ratio a very tricky situation, to be fair. How hard would it be to find out whether he has s partner?

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ladyWordy · 27/07/2012 01:34

It's hard because you are a normal human female with normal female biology, working with normal human males similarly endowed (!), in a very artificial and highly disciplined environment.

So take it slowly - tell us how it goes if you want to share :). We all have an inner teenager, y'know....!

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Genvonklinkerhoffen · 27/07/2012 09:26

Thanks for the messages of support ladies.

It is such an artificial environment, it's like being in suspended animation and the normal rules of the universe are suspended!!

I know he's divorced as we've talked about relationships in the past etc.

Lostmyidentity you did make me chuckle. It's a strange feeling, I get stared at (I mean stop the vehicle and wind the window down staring) every day. It makes me laugh because men can be so base can't they!!

There's an infamous story about a pilot returning some troops to the UK after an overseas tour & he said "we will be landing shortly, please fasten your seatbelts-welcome back to the real world and ladies, make the most of your last ten minutes of being popular and attractive".

Such is life.

I love the Army though so I wouldn't change a thing!!

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SkinnyVanillaLatte · 27/07/2012 09:32

Head rule heart.Just stay friendly.

When you finish your tour,then evaluate.

Keep safe,all of you.

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hoops997 · 27/07/2012 09:49

I say go for it, I've been on tour and know the feeling you describe, it's like being in a different world!

If you started a relationship, would it continue when you finish the tour? I had lots of relationships in the army and they're bloody hard work!

Just be careful though, we had a girl RTU'ed cause she fell pregnant in Iraq! I've also heard of the pilot telling girls to make the most of their last 10 minutes, it was on a flight back from the Falklands!

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hoops997 · 27/07/2012 09:49

Forgot to say, stay low and move fast

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Genvonklinkerhoffen · 27/07/2012 13:05

Hoops, thanks lady. We've had some fucking day here I can tell you.

Still thanks for the advice, I'm a proper stickler for the rules & it grips me when girls put it about on tour so no worried on that score. I suppose it takes the shall I shan't I out of the third or fourth date doesn't it!!